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If a guy who is my co-worker shares a lot with me about his current girlfriend (problems, concerns, etc), what does that mean?

Background-He & I had an emotional affair about a year ago. I ended it but it was really because we both felt guilty. We connected at such an emotional level from the start & did get physical but never had sex. We have tried to stay friends & we are doing pretty well.

But...if we are still sharing a lot w/each other but just don't have the physical...what is this relationship about?

Is he still into me but just can't act on it?

Just friends?

I am very confused!

Background: Had an emotional affair with a guy from work about a year ago. There was kissing, some touching hugging & a lot of talking, but never sex. We mutually ended it because even though we truly cared about each other & felt like we were falling in love, we were both in other relationships and the guilt got to us.

Now: We still work together. We have managed to make it through a very hard year of maintaining a working relationship and staying friends. I have fought the strong feelings I still have for him but would never want to ever hurt him. We have become really good friends & can talk about just about anything. We laugh, we talk and just get along amazingly well. We talk about our relationships & rely on each other for advice. I don't honestly know if he realizes the depths of feelings I still have for him. But, he is a good guy & has been nothing but wonderful in trying to work through a bad situation.

There is ONE thing that bothers me. At work, he will sometimes be talking to his girlfriend on the phone & its a small office so I can't help but hear. Its hard to listen to him talking to her! Also, recently he has been getting calls from other people at work because he & his girlfriend had a baby recently (unplanned) & I hear him say stuff like, "She was a champ" (re: labor) or "She was all baby & she has lost all the weight & looks great".

Question: Does he not realize at all how much this hurts for me to hear? Is he assuming I am fine & am over him because we are friends? Is there any chance he is saying these things to try to make me jealous or is he just clueless? Guys, help me understand what he is thinking. I would NEVER brag about my other relationship in front of him. He will call to say things like, "Oh, do you want me to take off Tuesday, so I can go w/you to the doctor?" Prior to our relationship, he NEVER called her. I didn't even know he had a gf! Why is he suddenly calling her? I feel like he is purposely trying to show me what a great guy he is. Sometimes I feel like he is TRYING to make me jealous or something. But maybe he is completely unaware. Thanks for any thoughts on this!

I had a brief fling with this guy (for about 3 months) but we broke it off because we were both in other relationships and knew what we were doing was really wrong. This was more of an emotional affair because we never had sex -- just long talks & kissing and many emails. We connected at a very deep level. Since we ended the fling about 4 months ago, I have had a really hard time getting over him. We see each other at work about twice a week. We talk & we still act like good friends but inside I am longing for him. I have felt in my "gut" that he feels the same but I am older than him & this is just a very complicated situation.

I just found out today that his girlfriend is pregnant & he is completely torn inside on whether to marry her or not. He talked to me for 2 hours about his confusion. He told me the day she broke the news, he was in the middle of telling her they needed to break up. They have had a difficult relationship for a LONG time (15 years). In my gut, I feel that he was trying to give himself a chance with me because my relationship is falling apart too & he knew about this.

So, as his friend I want to support him because he was asking for my opinion. I thought I'd ask all of you what you think? Should he marry her because of the baby and because he feels pressured by her family? Or, should he hold off until he is certain on his decision?