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So a few months ago, I got out of my first relationship. It ended really badly, to say the least. I wanted out for nearly month before we broke up. However, I was a pushover and let her convince me to stay with her and be unhappy. Fair warning: this is a long one.

Since that relationship ended I've been assessing the girls around me looking for a potential date. I kept having the problem of finding a cute girl with an awful personality (a definite no-go) or a cute girl who doesn't necessarily have a bad personality, but maybe isn't interested in the same things that I am, or isn't very smart.

About a month and a half ago I met a girl who met all the basic prerequisites that I look for: attractive, similar interests, intelligent. She was basically awesome, and I immediately took a liking to her. Just as I was about to ask her out I found out she was taken. That hit me like a freight train, especially when I found out that the couple is pretty committed. I was disappointed, but whatever, I got over it. I still wanted to find a girl that was girlfriend material.

Then everything changed. Well, nothing really changed, I just realized how things really were. Last night I went to a party. I'm in high school - I've been to parties before. But this is the new years eve party, thus putting it on another level.

I got wasted. Well, pretty wasted. I'm still together, but I've never been that drunk before. During this party I found myself on the floor of the bathroom at this chicks house, waiting to puke, and talking to one of the coolest dudes I know. We'll call him Jeff.

Jeff is smart, plays the six-string in a sweet band, and gets the ladies. He's also great to talk to. But he has lady troubles to. But his are the opposite of mine: he doesn't want commitment.

It was there on the floor of that bathroom that I realized that I'm in high school. I've got raging hormones and decades ahead of me. Why do I need to settle down? I'm not going to know any of this chicks in a couple years!

My intentions, obviously, have changed. I no longer seek commitment, but rather enjoyment. Does this make me a douche bag? Our friend Jeff isn't a douche bag is he? I know for a fact that he lets girls know ahead of time that he's only looking to hook up. If I were to do the same, then I'd be able to sleep at night, correct? What do you think about my changed outlook? Am I silly for thinking this?

Am I a douche bag now?

I've been talking to this girl for only a week after getting her #, and we just had some small talk and bla bla.

I've sent flirty texts to her fyi, so she knows I'm somewhat interested

Anyway while texting her today she said "I love that band too! me and my friends are going to go see them in concert"

should I take this as a way that she's not interested in me? Or at least not yet? or never?