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i made this just because I wanted to see what others had to say. I’m almost 27 and I’ve never dated, I have only been on 1 date and that was 5 years ago, that’s also the only time I’ve ever kissed a girl or had sex. I don’t consider that to be enough to say I have dated before because it was just that 1 night and nothing else. I also still live at home with my parents, I would definitely rather have a place of my own but I currently still live at home. I also don’t have a social circle as I only have 1 friend that I hang out with, but he might be moving out of state soon so I’ll have no friends if that happens. I honestly would rate my market value as low when this is all added up, but I’m curious to see what everyone else thinks. Please answer honestly.

I went on 2 dates with a girl. We kissed on the second date. The COVID19 shutdowns happened. We have been having weekly 2 hour phone calls ever since.

She says to me, "Maybe with the nice weather, you can come over this weekend for some responsibly socially distant drinks. :) "

I kind of continue flirting with her about how we might break that and be affectionate. She says, "We might... or I might be too much. I've been told that too."

So I go on flirting and she all of a sudden says:

"It's been a long time. Maybe a video call would be good? Or if you'd be good with a social distancing bbq this weekend with my best buddy, Jason, we can see each other then. haha"

See how she shifted things from it sounded like us being together one one one to all of a sudden having some guy in the mix?

She goes on to explain,

"Jason, I've known for years. We met on tinder and the dating thing didn't work, but we became great friends. I think you'd like him. He's a very fun version of me. haha."

The whole exchange was so confusing. I tell her to get back to me about it later. But somehow I felt that it was all made up bullshit. That there was no event coming up. I knew this Jason guy existed because she had told me about him and how they had originally met on Tinder before (on the first date).

Anyway, the next day, I am planning my weekend trying to choose between which ladies I will hang out with. I ask her if things were a go. She says, "... it's not going to work Saturday. My sister asked that I babysit my niece that evening."

Am I wrong to think this whole thing was odd? Is she shit testing me? Is she just not ready for a situation that could lead to us having sex? Is she trying to friendzone me? Or is she trying to get her male friend to meet me and approve of me?