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They work together 6-7 days a week. He spends more time w her than me because of being at work. They take breaks by themselves away from other coworkers, they text outside of work. They both tell each other all their personal problems. I seen a text my husband sent her that said she was so awesome and how lucky her husband was to have her.
Me and my husband have 3 kids and have been married for 6 years. We were having problems so we split up last fall but got back together two months ago. He never knew this girl before we split up. It just really bothers me how close they are. He was supposed to be changing shifts at work but he dont even mention it anymore. Think he would rather work w his "boss" than spend more time w me.

I. would never go tell another man stuff about my marriage. I just dont think its right. At times i feel like im overreacting but then again i really feel that my husband have taken this relationship w her out of bounds by far.

As teens we'd both been through rough stuff & by no means were up to dating. I was looking for a Mr (or Ms) RightNow as was he, I didn't care we were bff's.
For 7 years we've been friends, quietly close. We would talk all night, text constantly & all day, argue like lovers. I had no idea that it even seemed like a relationship - in my head we were friends because I felt as though if he was a man he would have sought me out more diligently.
He & I dated others, talked more than with anyone else but we sort of hid the others existence, something I realize seemed more like an affair than anything-perhaps emotional I suppose.
He would offer to get me clothes, get my hair done, buy me movie tickets - all things I vehemently rejected because I am all about covering myself w/friends. He even bitched at me for rejecting a game Monday!
Later as adults he said that I should have come on to him & demanded him, I realized that being more experienced I could have but I have a firm belief men should be the initiators.
Both dated others srsly, I thought moved on & kept contact after he moved - he even said..."You are the closest thing to a true significant other I've ever had."
Whoa right?
He told me all the things he wants me to piece together, something I loathe that he openly said he thinks I should just figure out due to his puzzling insecure b. s.
Ex: He told me how he was going to see a therapist to learn to understand himself better (I had suggested such for years), also his wage-very impressive, his insurance, all things I had always mentioned I NEED in a hubby (I know he told me these things to subtly say IM MARRIAGE MATERIAL).
I've been blind but he's been so mean sometimes, friends forgive so easily though.
He's moving back, calling more, texting more, says he wants to take me away etc. Everything I refused to accept but I still talk to him.
Friendship means everything.
We've also talked about breeding... I don't know what to think, or how he truly feels.

My boyfriend proposed to me and we are busy planning everything. He brought up me changing my last name, and I told him absolutely no, that I cannot do it. I have a fairly unique last name (Everyone with that name around here is related to me) and my name is my name. I've had it since birth and it's just not something I'm going to change because I love it. My boyfriend is very upset. Can any guys give me insight on why he is so mad? Is it totally unreasonable for me to keep my own last name?