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Just doing some thinking after I read some stats about how disagreeable, aggressive men earn up to 18% MORE annually then agreeable "nice" men.

While this doesn't surprise me, it does depress me. I'm a recovering "beta". Although I'm very athletic, driven and moderately successful (6 digit income) I've always been known as the "nice guy".

I always detested this label and did things to toughen my image. This included becoming a pro fighter and also being sexually promiscuous (at least 35 women... more if I didn't have guilt spiritually). However as I got older I tried to realized some of "macho" actions were just immature/stupid. I needed to grow up. But I still struggle with work conflicts and negotiating. I can be disagreeable but I try to see someone's side before blurting out whatever hits my mind. I always look for the "3rd alternative" middle ground with people. I won't just give in to what they want (if their my boss I'll eventually quit) but I'll take a moment to see their side.

However I sometimes wonder if my "peacemaker" mentality is really a euphemism for passiveness. I do have some family members (deceased grandfather, uncle) who have also been given this horrible label. I can remember in early childhood having desire to "get along with everybody" and avoid fights/conflict. My parents didn't raise me to be like this (both are very confrontational) and I don't want to be like this either... so I wonder. Did I inherit the "nice guy" gene. Sounds like a cop out but I've never seen any research article about this.