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I have this close guy friend who I know is attracted to me by his body language and how he acts around me. But I feel interactions over text just give me mixed messages. He’s always had this flirty air with me, a year ago I started becoming sexually attracted to him but he had this like long distance girlfriend so I left it alone. Fast forward they broke up (he didn’t seem to have any chemistry with her when they met in person at all) and a few months ago those feelings resurfaced into more.

I feel he generally has a flirty personality in general but on the flip side he’s like really shy too so idek. Plus I’m close friends with him and haven’t really seen any signs of fuckboy with him.

Last week I subtly shoot my shot and offer to see a movie with him, but he had to cancel the night before because he had a film shoot. We’re both film people, it happens, no biggie we were just gonna do it another time. So I hit him up like an hour ago asking if he wants to go again, he hits me back right away with a day and everything and I start to look for showtimes (not available yet for that day I’ll just wait a couple days).

But then he suddenly is like “Do you wanna see if anyone else in the group wants to come?” (We have a large group chat with friends for certain hangouts). This is where I get a little thrown off because it was always gonna be a one on one thing whether platonic or not. And now he’s like wanting to bring people?

I shrug it off and say people probably already saw it and won’t be available on a weekday cuz everyone had already established that they work during the week and it’s on a Tuesday. He’s still like insisting that I mention it and whoever can make it makes it. I just didn’t respond cuz I really don’t want to coordinate a simple movie hangout with 13 people, AND I just want to hangout just the two of us like initially planned. He didn’t take to the chat himself or anything he just asked me if I wanted to bring more people.

Let's say you click with 2 attractive girls with similar hobbies as you, but one was the shy and quiet type while the other is loud and quirky. Which would you rather actually date?

So I've been seeing this guy recently that I've been talking for a few months and we seem to have a lot of similarities/things in common. Whenever we would meet up/go on a date we always ended up doing something sexually and this one time he begged to do something and wouldn't take no for an answer but we didn't do anything. ( i have told him how i felt about things and he apologize for doing that and said it won't happen again)

he's new to all of this relationship stuff he's not use to it and things like meeting families/talking about kids or anything far ahead freak him out. He said he wants to take things naturally and not put pressure on it. He said something about what i said before about being lonely and starting over again. He has told his dad and friend about me. he's more of an in person guy.

When were in public he hardly looks at me sometimes (he did say thats what he does is people watch and just look around) and usually looks at me but when were alone he looks at me deeply in the eyes and is very affectionate. In public we do sometimes hold hands and hug , he puts his arm around me etc. We've had a few hiccups and he has anxiety so when we had a situation he was pushing me away.

He also told me he likes me and wants to be fair to me, he said he wants a relationship but his anxiety gets the best of him. (From what i can tell and confirmed with him)

he's a very shy guy and keeps to himself , not a huge fan of pda but when were alone he's not shy and as I've mentioned is very affectionate and looks deeply in my eyes and knows how to turn someone on/make someone feel good.

So I went on my first date since my ex and ontop of that there's a pandemic going on. The guy and I had a few disagreements before we met up but we worked it out. I am and was really excited and nervous, we did meet briefly a couple times before but it wasn't proper it was literally 5 minutes each time before we officially met face to face. Things did get carried away and overall i was just worried about that and nothing else.

During the date while we were doing things in the car, we were in an area where a lot of people could see and he was doing certain things that could be more in private and felt shy/nervous when those things were happening. i was enjoying it but also not in the moment and I don't know if it was just anxiety/nerves. Usually when im driving home from a date im usually confused and/or crying and with this one i wasn't confused or crying just worried about that one thing which we talked about. he's a good guy and we have a lot of similarities and he's the kind of guy I've been looking for.

by the way he did tell me if anything i think he did is uncomfortable to let him know and i was a little vocal about it but not too vocal about it.