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Im a good looking guy with social anxiety so im off socially, girls get excited when i approach them and are really inviting. They actually try to work with me when im struggling to try to say what i want to say while guys would just look at me weird and not say anything. And i usually get sexual signals and advances from them after a little bit of being around each other throughout the semester. And they get excited when i ask them to hangout.

The only thing that changes it is when my social anxiety makes me appear by accident either creepy, a douche (or too douchey for her), a loser, or painfuly insecure (if thats not the same thing as a loser). It doesn't happen a lot even though im far from being "cool". And its usually the attractive ones that are the nicest and cut me the most slack. If any girls are cliquey towards me or think low of me because im slow or socially off its not the hot girls, its the ugly ones that are. Im not sure why but 90 percent of the time thats whos doing it when it happens.

I think people who complain about approaching girls and girls being the ones making the decision, which is almost always rejection, just aren't attractive. I've heard girls say they get annoyed when guys keep hitting on them in clubs but they wouldn't care if they were cute.

The only thing i agree with is that its a little annoying that when both of you are showing signs of interest the girl almost never makes the first move. But it doesn't stop me from doing it its just annoying.

And for the good looking guys who always get rejected, i feel like youd have to be socially awkward in the way that made you appear either creepy, too much of a douche, or a loser to make a girl who was interested in you lose interest and maybe even play around with you.

Or your personality was that bad. But trust me, from my personal experiences if she found you attractive, it has to be pretty bad for her to lose interest like

I met my girlfriend her junior year of high school, my sophomore year. She sort of liked me from the first time we met, and i thought she was nice, but didn't really think anything of her.

Later in the year i heard from a friend she liked me and might wanna get with me. I started texting her, but it didn't seem like she was interested, so i started casually getting with a girl from my town. Just a spring/summer thing, ended before my junior year.

My girlfriend meanwhile didn't get with anyone junior year, or senior year, but liked me all of senior year and basically waited 6 months to get with me, as i stalled when it came to finally hanging out w her ( im shy, she's pretty and had plenty of options)

Anyway we hang and after a year together its this summer. I ask why she didn't want to hang with me her junior year, she says she had a stupid crush on this senior, and that she wanted him. She says it was just a stupid crush, but she didn't seem too into me, so im not sure. I got better looking from sophomore to junior year as well, so im insecure about that as well

She assures me that she would never be with someone who was her second choice, but either way i now feel like I was her second choice. Should i break up with her?