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Have just found out I am pregnant. Mixed feelings, as it is with someone who I truly love and have been calling the love of my life past 1,5 years. The relationship has not been always easy, we had a lot of dramas, challenges to work through, and things to forgive each other for. We have just gotten back together after a massive fight over nothing as usual, both have some things steaming from the past that keep interfering with us. We both have committed to working on things and have just signed up for a professional couple counselling. Both of us financially insecure, but fairly driven people and have goals to achieve to make the relationship work. WE have discussed kids, and reasonably decided to give it another 1-2 years for ourselves to settle down first. I have history of ectopic from 6 years ago, so have only one tube, had terminations before as ended up in wrong relationships in the past, and have always had limited contraception options since had a major surgery to remove a large fibroid. Took me a while to get my reproductive health and my head together to start even thinking of an opportunity to have a relationship and a family one day. This aside, my partner is completely thrown by the news, he is lost and terrified, is concerned about the money, and the fact we have just gotten back together and things started improving for us in a relationship. I understand and can relate to all of this. We both been careful during the sex last month, but it has happened. Previously, I had to take the morning after pill in a risky situations, and insisted on him using condoms, as any regular contraception would have increase a risk of fibroid growing back, which I do have one already, and it will only keep growing and will need to be managed through a surgery when it is large enough. The doctors have said I could manage to get through the pregnancy without complications. Partner insists we are not ready for this. Logically, I agree, but otherwise, I want this child.