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A girl I knew for two years ended our friendship recently as she said everytime she'd met me it had felt very formal and she'd been unable to open up and Í had only seen a very polite version of her and she'd been overwhelmed by my messages saying how close I thought we were etc. I was at the time in a couple of very toxic friendships and they were making me very guarded in person. In messages I would constantly tell her how important her friendship was to me etc (I wanted to let her know I appreciated the friendship as I knew I was too awkward to show it in person).

Should I send her this letter at easter?

I hope this letter finds you well. Just a few lines to thank you for your excellent advice about letting some of my ‘friends’ go. Some of the things you said when you ended our acquaintance made me realise that I needed to actually change things rather than just saying I would and burying my head in the sand. The toxic friendships I had with these people and the way I felt they were using me was making me keep everyone at arms length by presenting a very formal version of myself in person. As a result I was always very guarded and awkward around you and often seemed aloof as a result? Perhaps the reason you felt you couldn't loosen up and we failed to click? Anyway, I feel far less up tight and less anxious now I’ve stopped seeing them than I ever have done since Uni and its largely down you so thank you.

I think I can honestly say you were the best ‘friend I never had’ as your advice was key to solving this problem that I had been trying to ignore. I still very much regret making you feel the way you did. It was honestly never my intention and had I realised how you felt sooner I would have backed off. It’s a shame that it took losing your acquaintance for me to realise I needed to tell them where to go as if I had woken up sooner things may be very different now.

I hope your Uni work is going well and that you enjoyed your well earned holiday?