What It's Like to Feel Truly Alone

[Anonymous]

This post isn't going to be an informational one like the majority of my others. This post will be one to get some things off of my chest, nothing else. I just wanted to describe how I'm feeling at the moment, and I was told sharing with others can often help, so I figured I would try it.

I'm always surrounded by people. I go to school and squeeze through crowded hallways, I have a group of people to hang out with, I have a multitude of online friends, and I even have a pretty full house, but I still feel so alone most of the time. I wasn't raised in an overly sharing household, and I grew up not able to express emotions face to face. I can't communicate my emotions without choking up or crying, whether the emotion be sad, angry, happy, etc. I have to write down how I feel, but a lot of the time I erase it all before anyone sees.

I bottle up my emotions until one day I crack. I cry for awhile, I pick fights, and I find various other ways to release all of the built up tension. At the end of the day, I wipe my face and put on the mask I always wear. People think of me as a genuinely sweet and happy person when they meet me. I don't show the sadness and the rage bubbling just under the surface. I simply can't, other wise I'll break down and I won't be able to face anyone again. I was taught to remain strong, even when I'm being ripped apart on the inside. I stick to that idea like a religion, and I try so hard to hide my emotions in the real world.

This makes me feel so alone. I feel as if there's no one I can reach out to; no one to help me. Even my boyfriend can't make me feel much better, and he's often the one that makes me break down on that final day. I'm overly sensitive, especially when it comes to love, so I'm in constant fear of losing him. I view our relationship as a beautiful crystal trinket. Everyone around me is eyeing it with envy, ready to steal it away, and even if they don't I still need to be fragile with it or it will shatter and I'll be left alone once again

I want to reach out. I want to cry for help. I want to be held and have someone tell me that they love me and value me, especially when I constantly feel like second best. I've given up on most online friendships because I'm treated as a final resort, and that makes me feel horrible. It just becomes another emotion to pack away, and I've pretty much given up. I begin pushing people away so that I can keep some remnant of my heart in tact once they vanish from my life like the rest. Trusting just hurts too much. I let the voices of low confidence take over after awhile.

You're not good enough.

No one wants you.

You aren't worth the trouble.

Forget it, those people will never accept you.

You'll be alone forever.

No one cares.

I need someone to care, but I can't seem to find anyone who will try to keep me around. I just say goodnight four hours earlier than normal and hope that someone asks me to stay. No one ever does, and I'm left alone with my thoughts once again...

[Anonymous]

I've felt this way too at times. I know that this is probably one of the reasons I have not had a successful relationship yet, because I'm too closed off. But it's not necessarily my fault. I was taught at an early age to silence myself. My mom would always shush me whenever I would want to say anything. I wasn't allowed to have an opinion growing up, I wasn't allowed to say anything because disagreeing with someone would be 'causing a scene'. I was taught to let people trample all over me and at the end of the day I had to thank them for the opportunity.

This has lead to a lot of problems in my life with relationships and people in general. My confidence is low, but then it's not. It's hard to really explain. I feel confident in myself, and know in my head I can do things. But that low confidence voice creeps in and puts doubt in my head.

The only advice I can give to you is to realize that everyone is fighting a battle. Perhaps the reason the people didn't stay and talk to you after you said goodnight was because they thought you were really going to bed?

Try to think of things more rationally and not let that voice tell you to doubt yourself. People rarely go out of their way to do things in spite of you. They usually do things that are best for them. It took me a long time to realize that not everyone is looking to 'get at' me. Sometimes there is a rational explanation for what happened. Try to think of reasons why something might happen that aren't due to something you said or did.

Try to keep talking to people, find people you know in person who you can talk to and trust. Seek out help if you feel it would benefit you. Fill your life up with things that give you joy, they can be activities, or things or even just work. Whatever it is that will help you to take your mind off of the bad things.

[Spiorad_Aisce]

I think most people have had moments or days or extended periods like this. What is the best solution, I don't know everyone has their own way and hopefully finds the best way to cope with things, to come out of how they are feeling right now and what they may face in the future. My advice is
(1) Don't cut yourself off - Keep talking to people. One day you may meet that person you feel comfortable talking to
(2) Write a journal or a blog - Do something creative to take your mind off things or clear your head.
(3) Do things that make you feel content or have a look at things you might like to do.
(4) Explore removing negative things from your life to replace them with more positive things
(5) Thing about any short term things you do that may feel like a release (are they self destructive) - How will you feel in the long term?
There is no absolutely right or wrong answer here just bear in mind what is happening for future reference (was there anything I did to make it better/worse) - When you feel better have a think about and research coping mechanisms, try them out to see if they work for you - In most areas of mental health, the most important aspect is learning to cope with your life.

[Anonymous]

This is more common than you would think. I feel for you, so deeply. I live in a household like this too, and being a guy I have had even more reason to hide feelings. I haven't cried in front of anyone in years, and the last time was in my grandfathers funeral. I've been alone all my life, had a few close friends that would eventually leave, and I grow more and more hard. I reject more and more people.
Believe me when I say it becomes better. Maybe the reason you are feeling this way is that no one really knows YOU. You are alone in the sense that you don't let anyone close, and the reason could be that you don't like yourself. The key might be self acceptance. Easier said than done, but try working on that. It might take a long time, but it gets better.
From what you write you seem like a beautiful soul. Good luck.

[myTake Owner]

I appreciate how much thought you put into this opinion, thank you, I'm glad to know that it gets better, especially coming from someone who has experienced it.

[joeb73]

i feel that way more than i would ever want to admit. especially what it say in the last picture. its been that way as long as i can remember. so i go on with a quote from William Shakespeare All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players;
to me every one at least plays a part in life and only show to others what we what them to see. the allusion of our true self because sometimes we have a had time showing who me truly are or other will not except who we are , so we pretend to be something other than out true self

[Eyrmia]

I relate so much to this post! I have a friend group that I talk to, but I can't really talk to them, not about stuff that actually matters to me. I have to modify myself, my views, to fit their agendas and ideas of "what's right." Thank you for this, and I'm sorry about the jerks who are saying to get over it. Just because someone else may be in "worse" pain, that does not invalidate your own.

[myTake Owner]

Thank you so much, especially for addressing the rude comments here. I try to ignore them, but I have a short temper.

[Anonymous]

Although you FEEL alone, you aren't. Given that you actually do have people around you, it's not too late to talk to somebody. Anybody. They can help you sort through what you are feeling.
Me, I AM alone. The only person I talk to every single day is a grown man who's just passing time until he can come meet me. A man who is using me, who doesn't really care about me at all. Two weeks could go by before I get to say hi to my mother or sister, and I never know when my "friend" from school wants to text me. Being alone is when you physically reach out to somebody, and they back away from you. Counselors ignore you, relatives hate you, and acquaintances avoid you. That's how I feel.
It isn't too late to do something about your situation. Don't be afraid to open up to somebody. People do care.

[jacquesvol]

Often it's better to be alone than in dumb company.
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[jacquesvol]

Does a lion seek company?
No, wolves and sheep do.
Remember: ONE person could be enough. One person who cares about YOU.

[niahc]

I used to feel this way until I got a cat- amazing how much a pet can help you feel better. Pets communicate on a different level than humans. They never judge you and you will always be important to them. They are great at keeping secrets and never talk behind your back.

[ForSafety]

Omg is too long. xD But Being truly alone to me is To Live in your own world where the population is only you and only you exist in that world.
It would be peaceful, Nice and stuff :3 tho i wish to have a girl in it :3 And live together forever without dying and stuff. or even ageing.

[the_rake]

I guess if you are hiding your emotions then the people that you connect with, you are not *really* connecting with them: the relationships you have are just superficial therefore. I think this is part of the disease of the whole popularity mindset: people are more attracted to people that hide their emotions. Showing emotion is seen as a weakness. Perhaps the people that you would be better off being around are not the kinds of people who see emotion as weakness? Just a thought.

[Anonymous]

I thought that was you in my neighborhood. I total am a carbon copy ! It seems impossible to bare sometimes but I am slowly working through it and positive things are coming I have to believe it. Look at it like this I got an opportunity to meet you even though we are miles apart. It's a choice we have to make to find positives and things to be happy about , didn't say it's easy but after practice and practice it gets easier. Hugz lilcute 🍀🐶🍀

[Opinion Owner]

I am just a man. Who has enough love to give the whole community a Hug but just waiting on the hugz back be well lilcute I am rooting for you! 🍀🐶🍀

[DJZest]

I just came here to express the incorrect grammer in the picture: "Sometimes it's better to be alone - so nobody can hurt you." or "Sometimes it's better to be alone. Nobody can hurt you." would be correct. FYI

Otherwise you will sound like someone in elemntary school.

[ForSafety]

lols. and Add in Oil to Fire :3 Making a depress a more depressed :3

[dudegrt09]

You came alone in this world (unless you have a twin) and you leave alone in this world... That is the hard truth people have to digest... But in the long run it is very beneficial as you'll never have dependency on anyone. So don't expect that you'll never feel this way

[micheal727jovanie]

Trust me I feel alone but for a different reason. If I were to express what I feel and what I see people will think Im crazy so I stay quiet. I feel like most people are inside a cage of the mind there are only a few that understand what I feel...

[brain5000]

Beautifully written. Wonderful. You're a treasure. Rest assured, while you feel alone, the emotions expressed here are shared by many, and you are not alone.

[WeeGeeTheSecond]

What is the point in being alone to avoid being hurt
if you are already being hurt by being alone?

[myTake Owner]

Woah

[xxcchhllaauu]

you say your alone but you have a boyfriend, friends and a family see this is why I feel no 1 can relate to me but I have nobody. besides my mom, parts that are considered undesirable to the gender I'm attracted to and I'm supposed to be confident? when it comes to being alone I'm the only one who is truly alone

[myTake Owner]

"I'm the only one who is truly alone." This isn't true at all. Also, I said that I feel alone, not that I am. People are no good when they still make you feel empty.

[NicknameShirt]

You can be physically surrounded with people, all the time, every day. But if none of them interact with your authentic you, you end up feeling alone. It has to do with quality, not quantity.
I'm the same as you. I haven't met a friend in two months. I live at home, with my parents. I have never had a girlfriend, and all friends I make eventually move on. But I'm feeling better and better about myself, and that has taken some of the loneliness away.

[LeeDynastyy]

Hey, I want to talk to you but you are anonymous. please message me. I really want to tall

[LeeDynastyy]

talk*

[LiveFreeorDieHard]

who cares. life is a lot worse for a lot of people, just get over it. you feel lonely, so do a lot of people. what's the big deal.

[myTake Owner]

You need to leave bruh

[LeeDynastyy]

@LiveFreeorDieHard
People like you are the reason why society is fucked up.

[Sunflower19]

This is just the beginning, being truly alone is a lot different than this.

[myTake Owner]

I said feeling alone, not being alone. I know that I'm not alone, but it feels like that

[Anonymous]

"What It's Like to Feel Truly Alone"

"I'm always surrounded by people [...]"

*massive facepalm*

[myTake Owner]

I'm sorry sir, do you understand the meaning of the word "feel"?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, yes I do. And that's having no parents, no siblings, no relatives, no friends, no job, no co-workers, no money for going on courses or doing any hobbies where you could meet other people. And having just enough courage to go outside of your house to sit in the park - and yet not having the courage to strike up a conversation with anyone. The only human interaction would possibly be saying "Thank you" to the clerk in the local shop when he/she hands you your change. Then going home, listening to a particular radio station, that only broadcasts a few hours, because you know they say "Good night" before they switch off for the night, and then crying yourself to sleep.

Yeah, that's the meaning of the word "feel", because we are all on this planet with seven billion people, and yet many people are not always surrounded by people.

[myTake Owner]

Another persons pain does not make the pain of someone else less valid. I'm sorry you have to deal with that, but it doesn't mean that I can't feel alone.

[Opinion Owner]

Just stating that you have no idea, despite your topic title, what it feels like being truly alone on this earth

[ForSafety]

But he feels alone? When he is surrounded by so many peoples. Some peoples may be surrounded by millions of people everyday But still would feel lonely or alone because of those people are fake? I don't know xD

[Anonymous]

ME TOO YAR I HAVE SO MANY FRIENDS IN ONLINE AND REAL WORLD BUT STILL FEELS ALONE AND WAITING FOR SOME PERSON WITH WHOM I CAN SHARE EVERYTHING. DON'T WORRY WE CAN DEFEND IT