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I told people about hooking up with a girl at a party and the girl's friends were like "you're so desperate and seriously obsessed with her. she doesn't like you and she never hooked up with you. I don't think she even knows you so leave her alone. She thinks you're weird and you should really stop looking at her. You make it so damn obvious too like everyone in class sees it even the teacher."

Ok so I do look at her and i did kind of lie about hooking up with her but i can't get her attention at all and she doesn't pay attention to me even though I talk a lot in class and look at her she doesn't pay as much attention to me so I had to do something like this. I didn't want to lie but how am I obsessed? Because I look at her and try to get her attention? Will people think I like her or something cause I told them I hooked up with her?

We have a group project going on right now. I took lead and have 6 other students under me. One of the students that shows up literally never pays attention. We started brainstorming some things related to the project and he looked like he was completely lost.

I asked him if he was paying attention to anything I said. He replied yes and sort of gave me a goofy smile. I said okay, if you are in fact paying attention then I want you to go ahead and regurgitate what has been discussed here so far. If you can't recall anything of what we've discussed then I want you to pack your bags and leave because you're dead weight. Everyone was silent including this guy. He couldn't say anything. I told him I'm not going to babysit you and carry your weight. Said I want him out of the group. He left. The kid can't seem to find another group and will fail the class if he doesn't find one. I got a huge lecture from our TA saying that I'm out of line.

This same scenario has happened to me a couple times in group projects. I have little tolerance to people who don't want to put in any effort.

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me and my girlfriend have been together for about 4 years. prior to that, she had another boyfriend and was with him for 3 years. awhile back (september-ish 2016) she said he was sick with some cancerous illness because she saw a picture on facebook about it. that never really bothered her at all. but she told me just recently that his sickness progressively got worse and now he has leukemia from that. i don't know where she heard that or who told her. since she found out, which was about a few days ago, she's been worrying and constantly thinking about him. how do i know? she said "I wonder how (ex bf) is doing with his leukemia? i hope he's not majourly sick", "I've been thinking about (ex bf) lately", etc in a worried/concerned sounding voice. she even tried to convince me to go with her to the hospital to visit him yesterday. should i be worried, or am i worrying too much about this thing? I'm not trying to come off that i want my girlfriend to pay 100% of her attention to me and who cares if her ex boyfriend dies from a bad cancer. I'm just saying that I'm worried she's starting to get more feelings for him again and not have many left for me anymore because of how she talks to him and how she acts around him. also, their break up back in 2014 was mutual. and i know that he still has feelings for her cuz how he is (their break up was not a "he/she did this"). plus, I'm also worried cuz she's constantly wanting to spend time with him again. before she never used to text him or even talk to him and so on. now, she's basically texting him every single day. i don't know if I'm worrying too much, or if i should be worried. i also don't know if this is a jealousy thing that I'm going through. please let me know what you think i should do because i don't want to be stuck in a situation where my girlfriend is gonna possibly be dating 2 guys at the same time if things progress in a way that i don't want them to