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A demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone. It's more commonly seen in but by no means confined to romantic relationships. Nevertheless, this term does not mean that demisexuals have an incomplete or half-sexuality, nor does it mean that sexual attraction without emotional connection is required for a complete sexuality. In general, demisexuals are not sexually attracted to anyone of any gender; however, when a demisexual is emotionally connected to someone else (whether the feelings are romantic love or deep friendship), the demisexual experiences sexual attraction and desire, but only towards the specific partner or partners.

I am seeing this guy and we are exclusive, according to him. He’s been in relationships and is no longer a virgin (evidently). I am 23 and still am. He said he is afraid my lack of experience is an issue, because he’s been a virgin and knows it is scary. He told me he’d prefer to have sex with someone before falling in love with them to confirm there is an intimate connection. We have done a few things but not full blown sex. However, he mentions that this is “my gift” and I should not feel in a rush to give it up. He says we have a great emotional connection and he has fun with me physically, but the sexual concern on both sides (his drive/experience and my concerns) are a hurdle. However, he says he still wants something long term with me.

I am also afraid that he will end up leaving me after I give it up. I told him this too. I always had this fear of giving it up and the guy walking out. He doesn’t seem that type, he’s treated me good. And says he intends to be with me for the long haul. Is there an issue or is it in my head?
The only issue would be waiting until marriage and I don’t plan to wait that long😳

Say you had natural chemistry found her physically attractive, good sex, could talk to her about anything including the darker personal things, had similar views, a general sense of comfort (no judgements or things to be embarrassed about), get along really well (but we are both a bit fiery so there's a emotional intensity there and even if things happen we move past them and dont bring them up again for the sake of drama), she gets along well with your friends, etc. Pretty much you two would be great together.

But unfortunately if in an official relationship, it would have to come to an end because you both were moving to different cities in under a year. Would you simply keep it casual (though consistent), nonexclusive (as in you fuck other girls if you want) on a sexual level even if some of the above mentioned things still occurred? Or would you not want to miss out on the connection and just be with her exclusively (or officially) letting things run their course?