Why I Only Love/Want Monogamy

[PrincessPie]

If i had met the right person i would of been happy to only have one partner my whole life, being monogamous to me is easy.

One of my best friends has been with only one person her whole life (shes my age 24) and been with her partner since she was 15, i really would of loved to have met the right person straight away and only of ever been with them as strange as that sounds, i really don't feel the need to have multiple sexual experiences or go on multiple dates trying to find the right person.

Here are a few reasons, i like monogamy.

Connection.

I feel like the only way to be close to my partner for me is to know they only have eyes for me and i only have eyes for them (i know you can't stop finding people attractive) but i want to know they'd only ever be inclined to want to do physical or romantic things with me, I would NEVER have a open relationship and the idea for me (i don't care if it works for others) but for me the idea pretty much repulses me, the thought of my partner with anyone else hurts me and i don't understand how if you care for someone you could be okay with that.

No STDS/STIS. (Health)

There is no doubt sleeping around with multiple people has many risks, even with protection there is chances of you catching things, I am honestly okay with the "hookup culture" and what other people chose to do there life they can do as they please, but i know that i'd like my partner to have meaning in sex, and not just be a way of getting off.

I Need Feelings.

For me to sleep with someone i need some feelings towards them, i may not need to be "in love" but if there is no emotions there i honestly can't get turned on, in a way i'd class myself as demisexual, to me physical stuff feels so much better when there are some emotions there, i only will/have slept with guys i've been in a relationship with and i'm never changing that.

Growing old together.

I love seeing and hearing about couples who have been together for 40-50plus years, the idea really appeals to me to be able to share my life with someone for that amount of time and have a lasting connection, i've been with people who i really wanted this to happen with, but things change and nothing seems to last, i'd love to find someone i can be compatible in this way with, I really hope in the future to get married and have kids with someone i can have a lasting relationship with.

Kind of like the Movie UP. <3 (without the sad part.)

Marriage and Kids.

Not to say you can't get married with kids to someone you aren't Monogamous too (plenty of people are not faithful to there partners or openly see other people), but it just makes the whole idea less special to me, I want a happy stable family with someone who loves me and who i love also, amount of people i know who have had kids at a young age when they weren't ready or capable putting a strain on there relationship or ended up as single mums i want to make sure when i do these things i'm in the right place in life and know my partner is 100% the one i want to spend my life with.

I Want True Love.

As soppy as that sounds i really would love to find genuine unconditional love, the type of love your parents feel for you in the sense that it doesn't die, i honestly believe genuine love is extremely rare and very hard to find, Divorces are getting more and more common and these days people just give up on each other the first sign of any problems and i would like to find someone i can count on who knows i will do the same for them.

Thanks For Browsing :)

[Cosytoasty]

Question for ya pie, would you call it monogamy if you date several people at once to see which one you click with the best?

[PrincessPie]

If you tell them about it then sure, long as you have plans to actually pick just the ONE of them :P

[Cosytoasty]

Ahhhh decisions decisions... I guess if you don't tell them about it, it's neither monogamy or polygamy, but cheating?

I think it's also possible to go from polygamy when you're young and a raging bag for hormones, to monogamy when you're older (not obvious who i'm referring to is it lol).

[PrincessPie]

I don't know about cheating as if you aren't in a relationship with them i guess you can do as you please, but i do think its pretty shitty to date multiple people without making it known you are seeing other people, as that person could get too invested thinking you're only seeing them.
Hmmm.. I wonder who you're referring to :P lol.

[Cosytoasty]

Oh NOW they give +5 xper 😤

[PrincessPie]

I saw that, why? Since when lol.

[Cosytoasty]

Just kidding 😝

So, you don’t think it’s that persons fault for getting too invested too early? I guess me and you are on the opposite sides of the coin about this. Although I will say it does become shitty if the more invested party actually ASKS about the relationship and then the other person outright lies. If no words are spoke though...

(Dragging you all over the place with text tonight aren’t i hehe 😁)

[PrincessPie]

Yes I need to learn about the not getting invested easily part, you’re tougher than little me 🙈 I’m getting tougher though.
(Same with me lol)

[Fitness-Fanatic]

Great Take! I want exactly same :)

[Fitness-Fanatic]

Thanks for the MHO ♥

[PrincessPie]

Very welcome 💕

[gobsmacked3]

I think all people who are 'real' want monogamy and the 'happily ever after' it offers.

The rub is there are many who are so detached from reality and can't fathom 'real'. They live a vicarious being where everything is so skewed by fantasy. And the hysteria that rages in it

[heyyyyy123]

I feel like I am the only one who's going to be a little taboo on this topic. Although I actually agree with almost everything you brought up and discussed, I am not here to disagree but just here to state my unpopular opinion so to speak. I actually really love the idea of monogamy and its a beautiful thing and in my opinion when you are married with children that should be the lifestyle of choice. Although for me, liking the lifestyle of monogamy at this stage in my life isn't good for me, and I'll explain why. And I am actually going to state that I have only been with one person sexually in my entire life and am still with them today, but they have sex with whomever they please whenever. Yes, this is hard to process, but it is very true. Personally before I met him I was very shy and innocent and had never been physical with anyone, and he was the biggest player I had ever met. And I wasn't there to change him, to hope someday that he would fall in love with me, or anything like that. I just felt very comfortable with him for some reason, and always trusted him as a person. Eventually we fell in love with each other weirdly enough and I knew from the start that he was very free spirited and hated being tied down in anyway. And here comes the part where I talk about how monogamy on his side would
not work at this point in my life. I feel if he promised monogamy to me, I would just be constantly thinking about him possibly cheating on me, looking at other girls, going to clubs and making accidents, and so on. And this goes for any guy. Im not necessarily jealous, but just naturally very insecure from my childhood and stuff (ya know the deal lol). But it would drive me insane and I could never take the blow of him lying to me or breaking my trust which is more important to me then him having a one night stand. He doesn't fall in love with these girls, see them more then once or give them more attention then me. I never imagined ever essentially "sharing" my boyfriend with any girl, although having girls on the side or another girlfriend is completely wrong and I would leave immediately if i found out. But I have never trusted anyone as much as I trust him and I truly love this person and he truly loves me. I know this lifestyle isn't for everyone but I thought i'd share. Sorry this is painfully long haha.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

I've reunited with the same man for the 4th time already! I was his 2nd serious relationship and he also was my 2nd serious relationship. We started dating in our 20s. Fast forward 20+ years later, we've broken up 3 times and both had partners in between. However, we keep getting back together! I can't find the emotional connection I've always felt with him from the other men I've dated. He says neither has he with the women he's dated! Although we aren't married, we both feel like we've been married for so long already. Plus, we haven't quarreled for 6 straight years! We're so in sync! We know we love and are in love with each other. It's not monogamy but it sure feels like it.

[PrincessPie]

I love that feeling, where you just can't keep away from each other.
I hope you two stick with each other now :)

[DeeDeeDeVour]

My boyfriend repeatedly told me that I'm the woman he wants to grow old with. I also told him something similar: "I'm forever home in his arms."

[hellionthesagereborn]

The only part I would argue with is the unconditional love, love is conditional and it requires work and its important to remember that. Those people didn't get to be together for fifty years because of "love" they did it because they worked at it, communicated and resisted the temptation to give up when things got hard. Its important to remember that. The other reasons I would give is as you pointed out its far more stable and healthy for children (they do all around better in that kind of environment) its healthier for the couples (they live longer in a monogamous marriage then out of it) and people who sleep around not only report less satisfaction with their sex lives (despite getting more of it) they also report being more depressed then those who are in stable relationships. But other wise yes I would agree with all of this.

[JudgmentDay]

Good luck with it! And please update this when you finally got to point of "Marriage and Kids".

"Divorces are getting more and more common and these days people just give up on each other the first sign of any problems and i would like to find someone i can count on who knows i will do the same for them."

this greatly holds many people back from ever marry as well. some just called it quits ages ago and don't even care to try anymore, stopped dating altogether, stopped pursuing another person altogether, etc. some bounce back, some truly had given up. But if you haven't then, keep on trying, wish you best of luck, just do whatever makes you feel comfy or happy.

[GracefulCharm]

I think monogamy only occurs when you find someone who is special to you. I don't think this occurs if it just doesn't feel right. This type of loyalty is rare because it's difficult to find someone who really compliments yourself and brings out the best in you. It's not just what others offer you. But you also have to be a perfect fit for them as well. You have to question what you offer too. It's very rare that the feelings transcend in the same manner both ways.

[PrincessPie]

I agree.

[TonyMetal86]

Wow, just WOW, have you read my mind? I agree with each word said 100%

Now i believe that your a princess, a true REAL princess 😊

I wish you to find this man who will makes you live your life just as the way you described...

You and some other ladies are truly rare, i'm so happy to find out that there still true ladies in this world, you have my respect 🙂

[PrincessPie]

Aww thank you, that is very sweet :D same to you.

[TonyMetal86]

Thanks, but i'd still like to add to your article that i'll marry a only a girl who loves to become devoted housewife 😊

[FatherJack]

" i honestly believe genuine love is extremely rare and very hard to find "... Yes , agree heartily here , also remember , people change with age too , you will be a different person when you hit my age , was still partying / clubbing at 26 to some degree , but was free and single then.
Plus , women and men are VERY differently wired , which causes communication difficulties , due to different interpretations. Agree too with @gobsmacked3 , too many people ARE detached from reality.. mainly due to toxic " media" influence , which also drives a wedge between the genders in it's own right.. deliberately so !!

[spiderweirdo]

I met only one guy who made me feel this way. Not many can compete with him ❤

[PrincessPie]

You still with him :)?

[spiderweirdo]

No happy ending for me there

[PrincessPie]

Sorry, hope you manage to find someone who can make you feel even better <3

[spiderweirdo]

Its ok, all good things usually come to an end. He set an impossibly high bar though

[Anonymous]

I think it is excellent to know what you want, and I support you in having that.

I do think some of your assumptions about polyamory are a bit unfair, however. But I'm not here to go over it point by point.

I think monogamy, or long periods of monogamy, are what most people want for their lives. It's a great choice for most people.

[PrincessPie]

Thats totally fine :) Which parts did you find unfair?
I mean obviously this my take is only about how i feel on the subject and what i'd like, i understand some people aren't inclined that way.

[Opinion Owner]

Just that you believe poly people can't have all the same things you desire like connection, feelings, growing old together, etc.

Not all forms of non-monogamy are just meaningless hookups.

[PrincessPie]

That's fair :) Are you Polygamous?

[Opinion Owner]

Polygamy only refers to the state of being married to more than one person, which is not yet legally possible in the United States, so no, I am not.

I am polyamorous. That means that I can love more than one person at the same time. It doesn't mean that I enjoy hookups with no emotions and stuff - I don't.

It is not a life for everyone. I don't say it is better or worse. It's just one of many possible ways people can be as adults and if it suits them and works, that's great. Same with monogamy. It suits most people I think, but for those it doesn't suit, there are other ways to be that can also work.

[Anonymous]

I agree with everything you said! I really want to find that kind of love. Unfortunately I feel like that will never happen for me. Only one girl has ever shown interest in me and she ghosted me after a month of dating. I've been lonely ever since and feel like it may never happen.

[PrincessPie]

Don't give up hope :)

[coralee]

If you want monogamy that's great. Monogomy is still seen as the ultimate form of love in our culture and still idealized to the extreme. People who choose hook-up culture or polyamory over monogomy don't want everyone to pick the same lifestyle. I think they just want people to realize that monogmy isn't the only way and that their chosen lifestyle is still valid.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Statistically it makes them less happy though. It also makes them less healthy and is a considerablly worse enviroment to raise children in. Its not a moral issue but a health one (both mental and physical).

[coralee]

@hellionthesagereborn You do shit everyday that is statistically bad for your health both mentally and physically. If they aren't hurting anyone it is none of your business. And I would argue that part of the ill effects have to do with culture, but I digress.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Well if it only affected them I wouldn't care, as you said it doesn't affect me. But it doesn't, it can result in offspring and they will suffer for it and that's the issue. Further more I have not in any way advocating for some kind of infringement legal or otherwise on the behavior so the extreme hostility is misplaced. If you want to smoke or drink or what have you fine, but I do think that we have an obligation to be upfront about its affects. As for your claims of culture, no that's not the case as this set up is incredibly rare to begin with, its found only in hunter gatherer type groups or historically the very wealthy (it was still discouraged and the vast majority of people where monogamous), and every time a society became increasingly more fixated on sex and pleasure i. e. the more they became "polygamous" or promiscuous, the worse off they became until their inevitable collapse (it happened in rome, Persia, japan, etc. all differing cultures yet same outcomes).

[MrMAC777]

The chances of meeting Mr. Right the very first attempt is really low. And how do you know if they are Mr. Right if you never experience another relationship? But I agree with most of what you mentioned about monogamy, good piece! 😊

[PetrovaFire92]

Did you find love lol

[MrMAC777]

@PetrovaFire92 I thought I did, but I got divorced... turned out it wasn't the real deal... how about you?

[PetrovaFire92]

I thought I was... then I realized i don't like the way he acts...

[MrMAC777]

@PetrovaFire92 ditto! That's too bad for him... now some lucky guy will get a chance at something amazing right? 🤗

[PetrovaFire92]

He acts lazy... like doesn't wanna go to college..(dropped out).. that's not something I would have done. I see things through TILL THE END, an just to over emotional... it's okay to need me but i can't be making you feel better every time..

[PetrovaFire92]

An I liked an older guy but I went about things the wrong way.. but I'm only human. 😋 I kinda confess my feelings to quick and being to intense..

[MrMAC777]

@PetrovaFire92 that happens easily when you really like someone, to be too intense too quickly. Aand the other guy seemed lile he was dragging you down, good for you for getting out of that mess! 👍

[PetrovaFire92]

Yeah now because I liked him so much he won't talk to me, he was very funny but maybe I was pushing to many needs on him hahah. I wish I could have did things differently... :(. And the other guy (ex boyfriend) his bipolar and had depression... kinda to much for me 😖.. uncomfortable emotions... to sensitive to every little thing.. I don't Sugar Code shit an won't ever start now. Like he expectes me to me nice or agree all the time..

[MrMAC777]

@PetrovaFire92 sounds like that guy needed a Mommy and nobody is attracted to that shit! And what kind of needs were you pushing on him? (If you don't mind me asking)

[PetrovaFire92]

The need to talk to communicate.. I talk a lot.. but only happens with a special kinda person.. he had a daughter any way he was about your age lol!!! 🤣.

[MrMAC777]

@PetrovaFire92 oh was he now? 🤗

[PetrovaFire92]

Yeah he was :(

[MrMAC777]

@PetrovaFire92 what's wrong with that? Lol 🙁

[PetrovaFire92]

Nothing was wrong... just sad :( cause I really like him.. and he liked black girl's but.. I don't ... really disappointed.. I probably did something wrong :(

[MrMAC777]

@PetrovaFire92 ok that confused me... maybe send me a message about what happened there...

[PetrovaFire92]

I can't don't have enough points to message you.. but you can message you have like 6 points lol

[MrMAC777]

@PetrovaFire92 sent!

[PetrovaFire92]

Got it!

[Greaver]

I’m the exact same way I don’t want multiple girls I want one to spend my life with to give my love to never give up on to always be there for them Monogamy is amazing to me I don’t know how people have open relationships because I can’t share love with multiple women I need one to take all my love and the fact is I’m always loyal and always loving and caring I can’t be with multiple women I need one woman

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thank you for sharing this with us. I agree with you more than 100 %
I like to have only 1 Woman in my life and that's why i never had actual sex cause i want something that is lasting and for real.

[PrincessPie]

Hope you find it :)<3

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thank You :) :-D :-P

[DevikaButts95]

I mean if you're monogamous that's great, but honestly, and I wouldn't be sure, but honestly I think you could also have most of these with polygamy.

[PrincessPie]

Are you Polygamous :)?

[DevikaButts95]

I'm not sure if I would be. I would like to keep my friends with benefits as my personal chair in the future tho.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Generally speaking polygamous relationships are not sustainable. Think of all the effort and energy you need to give the time you have to give for one person, then you add another. It stretches a person to thin and leaves less time for themselves as well. most don't last very long.

[DevikaButts95]

@hellionthesagereborn
Nah dude, maybe for you but I don't think that's the case for everyone.

[hellionthesagereborn]

I'm not basing this off my experiences, I have never been in that kind of relationship, I'm basing this off of what psychiatrist have stated (numerous ones) when these people inevitably have their relationships fall apart as well as scientific data that shows these types of relationships generally speaking, are less able to support a healthy child, as well as the fact that we do not see this in any other cultures generally speaking (its not unheard of but rare, and its never been found in an advanced civilization at any point in history) as well as the fact that statistics show that multiple partners generally lead to less happiness (this is for promiscuity specifically not necessarily polygamy but similar situations) and that while you will rarely see one man with multiple woman its even rarer to see the reverse as men do not share generally speaking, only in the most extreme cases ( one group in napels I believe is the only group to have the polyandry).

[hellionthesagereborn]

I'm not saying you cannot try this, it doesn't affect me at all so if you want to do that go for it, I'm just telling you that all data shows that it will have a high probability of failure.

[DevikaButts95]

@hellionthesagereborn
Imma need reliable sources for this.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Really? Will you actually acknowledge it and accept it? I doubt it. In fact I would, if I was a betting man, put money on it that you will dismiss all of the links I provide either by actively doing so or just ignoring them. However if you want here they are (most are on promiscuity itself but are applicable to the situation):
www.drkarenruskin.com/.../
www.psychologytoday.com/.../do-open-relationships-work
www.yourtango.com/.../closing-book-open-marriage
www.webmd.com/.../the-truth-about-open-marriage#4
www.theglobeandmail.com/.../
www.psychologytoday.com/.../the-slippery-slope-open-marriage
dailysignal.com/.../
www.kstatecollegian.com/.../
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/.../nihms499028.pdf
onlinelibrary.wiley.com/.../full

[hellionthesagereborn]

s3.amazonaws.com/.../Bookofcharts.pdf
www.hookingupsmart.com/.../
https://www.bradley.edu/dotAsset/165862.pdf
socialpathology.blogspot.com/.../...uest-post.html
socialpathology.blogspot.com/.../...uity-data.html
socialpathology.blogspot.com/.../...orce-risk.html
They have also found these to be accurate across cultures as well.

[DevikaButts95]

@hellionthesagereborn
Alright so I've only gone through a few of these, because you gave me too many and I'm too busy to read through all of them, but are any of these using scientific research? Like they look a group and a control group, they collect data on how happy everyone is. Like are any of them that? Because every one of these looks like they're someone's opinion on the matter without reference anything that looks like someone took the time to actually research this matter.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Yes quite a few, as I said the first couple are from psychologist and councilors the later ones are scientific data on promiscuity in general and how multiple partners reduce happiness and increase risk of divorce cheating, unhappiness in marriage, etc.

[hellionthesagereborn]

In fact the ones listed as socialpathologist all are break downs of these various studies with links, the book of charts link is a direct link to the study done on divorce rates comparative to number of partners, the bradly edu. link is a direct study done across cultures of what traits lead to promiscuity showing that the behavior are cross cultural and are not shamed simply because of our current culture. The WebMD link has links within it showing similar results for negative outcomes of multiple partners, also if you notice in most of them when talking about how "polygamy/open relationships" work, most every one claiming they do speak in past tense i. e. that they work but they still ended up breaking up/divorcing which heavily suggests they don't work. The link Kstatecollegian is a link showing that traditional roles (and values) make people happier and they link to several studies that show this, the NIHMS link shows the link between multiple partners and depression etc.

[DevikaButts95]

@hellionthesagereborn
" It’s likely not a big issue (nor is likely to correlate with non‐marital partner count), but marriages that ended with the death of a husband would fail to count towards the Heritage Foundation’s definition of a “stable marriage”.
From one of the last three links you've given me. That line is just laughable. Also the last three don't seem to be about what we were talking about.

[DevikaButts95]

@hellionthesagereborn
Yea I mean I still haven't read all of them because there's 10 but none of them seem to be specifically about open relationships, or polygamy. And we're just talking about polygamy. Like I read the last three with data, and those seem to be involving having sex before marriage, not what we're talking about. And while I won't toss it out completely because I didn't bother to read it completely (again, not our conversation point), I gotta say it seems completely biased or fishy. Like it's just trying to get a narrative across. It's also at least a decade or more old at this point, and they weirdly define stable marriage as being married for 5 years and are still married, and sexually active as having sex once in a lifetime. I'm willing to believe the data because it just sounds like from this you can get that women who have had multiple relationships/sex aren't satisfied with their shitty marriages like the other girls. Lmao.

[DevikaButts95]

@hellionthesagereborn
Also, it always says "first marriage in divorce" which I think is interesting.

[hellionthesagereborn]

All the ones done by psychiatrist and marriage councilors are about that actually. And again, the data showing multiple partners results in less happy people are applicable because again, polygamy requires that you have multiple partners. So like I said, its not that the data doesn't support my statement, you just don't like what it says (which is why I said it was a waste of time giving you links to data that you clearly have no intention of reading through or acknowledging as being true when it proves your point wrong). I'm sorry but multiple partners leads to unhappiness, traditional relationships and roles lead to the greatest amount of happiness on average and when you break down the interactions people have in relationships, polygamy is the worse solution as it adds more issues and stretches a person thin. Most people cannot even handle a intimate relationship with one person let alone multiple people.

[DevikaButts95]

@hellionthesagereborn Just because you're a psychiatrist or marriage councilor doesn't mean you don't have your own personal story to tell. Anyhow, I didn't ignore it. It had no applicable use to polygamy. Polygamy is multiple partners in relationships. That study only looks at people who want monagamy, and its about how many sexual partners a girl had before a marriage. Two different subjects, and there's no debate about that.
As for me "ignoring the data" and having no interest in it, well when you send me 20 links and most of the ones I read seem to be biased or unscientific, yea that'll happen. Lmao. For the ones I did read with data, I didn't even ignore it, I went on and explained how I took the data. "multiple partners leads to unhappiness" This statement isn't something I would conclude from the data. It would be that multiple partners leads the girls to realize they're unhappy and unfulfilled in their first marriages. And everything else you said is just subjective.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Just because they are people does not mean what they stated does not have merit especially considering that they are working within the pertinent field of study. As for the promiscuity results, no what it shows is the more partners the less happy, statistically those who have sex with multiple partners are more likely to suffer from depression/anxiety and more likely to suffer from substance abuse. Its shown that either it causes trauma or its caused by trauma but in either case its not a healthy response, this does then pertain to multiple partners. We also know that every time we cuddle get physical or have sex with a person our brain floods with oxytocin which is responsible for helping establish emotional connections and the more people you do that with the harder it is to maintain those connection (their is a finite limit of meaningful relationships we can maintain). That also means that you would have to split your time and your affection perfectly evenly with those people

[hellionthesagereborn]

Which is not realistically going to happen, you just had sex with one person are you going to want to go again with another? Are you going to be able to be into it with them as you where with the first partner? Logistically and physiologically and psychologically its just not something that can be maintained.

[DevikaButts95]

@hellionthesagereborn
It does not show that the more partners the less happy a girl is in a marriage. It shows that the more sexual partners a girl has had before marriage, the less stable their FIRST marriage is. That is the only thing you can conclude from the data. Not to mention I want to know who they surveyed too. If they surveyed a certain group of females, that's already going to skew those results. A lot of this research seems like it could have been controlled much better too, not sure, I don't recall your sites mentioning the controls.
"That also means that you would have to split your time and your affection perfectly evenly with those people Which is not realistically going to happen, you just had sex with one person are you going to want to go again with another?" Three things. 1. Relationships are more than just sex. 2. You don't have to sex with them right at that moment. 3. Entirely 100% subjective, and thus worthless to me.
Come back with worthwhile facts.

[hellionthesagereborn]

The survey was done multiple times, other data shows that if you divorce once you are more likely to divorce again so you claiming it only applies to the first marriage is not true. Also again, it stated partners, not one night stands, not friends with benefits, partners i. e. it did not matter the relationship just the number. As for who did it, multiple people with multiple agendas. A liberal who was trying to do what you are doing and claim that since it did not follow his personal beliefs it must therefore be wrong repeated the study and unsurprisingly found the exact same results. It was done in a small study in New Zealand and in the US etc. Like I said me posting links didn't matter because you have decided that you are right so nothing and I do mean NOTHING will convince you no matter how solid the evidence or how blatently obvious it is. Their is a reason our ancestors chose monogamy and why it occurred independently in almost every single civilization.

[DevikaButts95]

@hellionthesagereborn
"The survey was done multiple times, other data shows that if you divorce once you are more likely to divorce again so you claiming it only applies to the first marriage is not true. "
Specifically that the cause being girls having previous sexual partners before marriage is not applicable to the other marriages because it was not tested. You assuming other marriages have a connection based on other data, but it's an assumption.
"Like I said me posting links didn't matter because you have decided that you are right so nothing and I do mean NOTHING will convince you no matter how solid the evidence or how blatently obvious it is"
Lmao dude where are the research on polygamy dude, that's what we're originally arguing. I haven't even said that I don't accept the data. I just say there's a lot of things fishy about it and it's irrelevant to what we were originally arguing. Which is 100% true. Lmao.

[PrincessPie]

Lol you two guys have been having this out got days :P

[DevikaButts95]

Lmao yea.

[hellionthesagereborn]

You don't accept the data, its not fishy, it was cross cultural, multiple groups across a broad spectrum of ages, done by multiple people of opposing political views, with a more then adequate sample size etc. etc. I gave you the links to professional opinions on polygamy, how in their experiences dealing with people who are either interested in or have done it usually end in failure etc etc. As I said it doesn't matter what data you are given you will not accept any stance that contradicts your own previously held beliefs so this has been a monumental waste of time for both of us. Just be honest with yourself next time.

[DevikaButts95]

@hellionthesagereborn
" I gave you the links to professional OPINIONS on polygamy " Lmao gee wonder why I ignored them. You telling me I don't accept the data doesn't make me not accept it. I told you, it wouldn't surprise me, it specifically is for first marriages and it would not surprise me that having previous sexual partners would make you more likely to realize you're not happy in your first marriage. I think the real thing being shown there is that woman who have had less sexual partners are morel likely to settle. You telling me it's not fishy doesn't mean I can't question the reliability of the data. That's something you can and should do with all data. Lmao.
You're just an idiot at this point, because this is like the 3rd time at least I'm restated all these things. But you really want to be right about "As I said it doesn't matter what data you are given you will not accept any stance that contradicts your beliefs." But you're not buddy. Lmao.

[hellionthesagereborn]

You missed the part where I also linked to the multiple studies done by scientist. As per usual you don't like what was stated so you selectively omit what was presented so that you don't have to confront your preconceived notions.

[DevikaButts95]

@hellionthesagereborn
I still haven't read all of the links, not a fact I'm denying, because you linked so many and so many of them were a waste of time. So relink them so I know which ones are apparently worth reading.

[lazermazer]

And what if you fall in love with that one person who is married?
Let's test who is Princess Pie, lol

[lazermazer]

Hahaha, did i make your head start spinning?

[PrincessPie]

Yes 🙈

[lazermazer]

Your welcome

[Anonymous]

I had that in life until she passed.
Hopefully I get a second chance at that kind of life again.

[PrincessPie]

Sorry about that :(, I hope you do get a second chance.
Life can be harsh.

[SouthpawPablo]

stop making me fucking cry gawd now i really dont just long for love its driving me fucking crazy!

[Anonymous]

Considering things nowadays being only with someone it's not allways good because:
-sometimes you argue
-sometimes one of you need time alone to recharge/rest
-feelings, after a while become less to zero which turn into other
-etc
I am out of options at the moment