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I was seeing this guy for about a month. We met on Hinge. We’re both med students in different schools in diff states (next to each other) so we have busy schedules. We have gone on a couple of dates (he initiated the first one, I initiated the second). He would initiate texting almost every morning to see what I had going on for the day/check in.

A day or two after date 2, it seemed like he was a little distant? He didn’t text me for two days so I asked what was up (he was helping a roommate move and went to see his parents). He went right back to texting me as usual. I did ask him a little while back what he thought about him and I. He said he’s been busy with school so he hasn’t taken time to think it out but he wanted to see where things go. Also, no mention of sex from his end at all, until:

Here’s where things get weird: one weekend, he sorta sent a booty call message to me (post exam celebration with his friends so he had a few drinks). I played along because honestly, I was kinda interested. The next morning, he seemed kinda distant. I told him to call me (I missed the sound of his voice) and he said he would after he finished a shift in the hospital. Haven’t heard from him since and it’s been a few days.

Is he ghosting me? Or should I reach out? He’s usually the one to reach out and will even double text if he hasn’t heard from me but nothing so far.

And if it he is ghosting, why make the effort to initiate communication with someone everyday for a month? If for sex, why would he talk to me for a month before bringing it up?

I met this guy on a dating site a few weeks ago and we’ve been texting everyday throughout the day since, with him initiating every morning. He asked me out for our first date. It went well and he and said he wanted to see me again soon after.

Some time passes and I got impatient and asked him on the second date. It seemed like we were both having a good time, but had a slight hiccup (he walked me to my apartment and I tried to kiss his cheek but he was trying to get to my lips but we laughed it off and had a quick peck after, it was an awkward/cute moment). We still expressed to each other that we had a good time.

But, it’s like things changed overnight after that because he’s been texting a lot less frequently and more sporadically. I’ve been used to waking up to a good morning text from him over the past few weeks but so far today, nothing. I also haven’t heard from him in over a day now.

I should also mention, we’re both PhD students so we’re both busy. But it’s literally gone from him texting me to let me know everything he’s doing, to much less frequent texting. It’s been a few days of this but I’m worried. My biggest priority is protecting myself and feelings if this is the beginning of a slow fade. Or maybe he felt weird from our moment from that night? I’d really like some input and can answer any other questions if more info is needed.