Okay, guys, I know when you read the question above your immediate response is "of course you should, you never know until you try", but this situation is a little more complicated (at least to me).
So, the guy I feel for is a classmate. At the beginning of the semester, when we first met, he immediately pursued me. We went on two dates, and the second date after we made out, I questioned where what we were doing was heading. He told me he's afraid of commitment, and after making sure I was okay, we agreed to only hang out in group settings with other classmates.
Fast forward to now, we actually became friends throughout the semester. We text often, about assignments, class, and life in general. I can definitely tell he cares for me, but I feel like he only cares for me as a friend. He asked me if I wanted the two of us to hang out during the summer, which shocked me a bit, but i'm pretty sure he only meant it as friendly. I wish I could look at him that way too, but I still strongly have feelings for him to the point where it hurts. The whole semester every time I saw him, I pretended everything was fine and I was okay being friends when deep down it hurts every time, but I didn't want to make things awkward during class. It is the last week of the semester and then it is summer break, which means I won't see him for four months unless we hang out. But I know deep down that's not a good idea. I feel to get over him I need permanent distance for a while, especially if im gonna be in class with him another year. But I also don't feel right ignoring him over the summer without an explanation, since he is my friend. I was thinking of telling him that it still hurts to see him and it's not a good idea to hang out over the summer. What should I do? After acting friendly and normal around him recently, do I outright send him a text immediately? Should I wait for him to reach out to me first over the summer before I tell him, or nip it in the but at the start?
So, the guy I feel for is a classmate. At the beginning of the semester, when we first met, he immediately pursued me. We went on two dates, and the second date after we made out, I questioned where what we were doing was heading. He told me he's afraid of commitment, and after making sure I was okay, we agreed to only hang out in group settings with other classmates.
Fast forward to now, we actually became friends throughout the semester. We text often, about assignments, class, and life in general. I can definitely tell he cares for me, but I feel like he only cares for me as a friend. He asked me if I wanted the two of us to hang out during the summer, which shocked me a bit, but i'm pretty sure he only meant it as friendly. I wish I could look at him that way too, but I still strongly have feelings for him to the point where it hurts. The whole semester every time I saw him, I pretended everything was fine and I was okay being friends when deep down it hurts every time, but I didn't want to make things awkward during class. It is the last week of the semester and then it is summer break, which means I won't see him for four months unless we hang out. But I know deep down that's not a good idea. I feel to get over him I need permanent distance for a while, especially if im gonna be in class with him another year. But I also don't feel right ignoring him over the summer without an explanation, since he is my friend. I was thinking of telling him that it still hurts to see him and it's not a good idea to hang out over the summer. What should I do? After acting friendly and normal around him recently, do I outright send him a text immediately? Should I wait for him to reach out to me first over the summer before I tell him, or nip it in the but at the start?
