Besides no contact, is there anything else I can do with this person that I enjoyed spending time with?

[Anonymous]

35m, 26f. So I went on two dates with a guy. He had messaged me on Instagram a few months ago and we started talking in January. He came on a bit too heavy and I didn't like it so he blocked me on Instagram, found it a bit weird but moved on. I probably shouldn't have but I noticed he had unblocked me about a month later so I reached out. We caught up. Got along well, seemed to have a lot in common/similar interests etc. He told me he was open to a relationship but at times it seemed like he only wanted sex as the two dates consisted at his house, even though we did go on an evening picnic that he had organised. Went on a second date, when I left that evening he asked me to send me the Uber drivers details and ensured I got home safe etc. He kept in contact with me, nothing seemed like he wasn't interested. Then I reached out saying that I'm often unaware of when he wants to see me next, that he appears he has casual interest and I don't want to get too invested. He apologised, said I'm right and said he's had a lot on his plate lately and he should express that more in the manner it deserves. Asked me if I can talk to him tomorrow. I knew the answer wouldn't be good so I blocked him (yes my fault). He sent me a rude message saying that I was immature, didn't obviously answer the questions I wanted. We ended up speaking on the phone, he said he thought he would be open to a relationship but doesn't think he can devote the time I would expect. I told him that I also don't know him that well enough to gauge whether I even want that from him. He said he likes me and thinks I'm cool and would like to see me again. I sent him a message after our phone call and said again that I think he's got it slightly wrong about me wanting a relationship, that it's probably off by a factor of 10 and we could try and keep things relatively casual (it was a semi long reply) and he said "?" and then "sure whatever"

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The next evening I sent him a message saying I was sorry for blocking him, I would not push but I would like to see him again but understands if he doesn't want to. He responded with "I don't want to deal with this f***ing bullshit right now, *name*" and I responded with "Look, it’s pretty obvious you do not want to and that’s fine, I’ve given you enough leeway - I really don’t want to be someone's sounding board. I’ve been nothing but accomodating to you. Don’t contact me again"

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And he responded with "F*** off, mate".

[Anonymous]

Sounds to me like you both aren't mature enough to be in a relationship.. Grow up, and keep your finger off of the block button. It's a child's way of throwing a temper tantrum, and denying the other person a channel to communicate with. If you block, block for good, permanently. Don't use it as a childish manipulative game like you're doing now. He is pissed at you, and rightly so. Do your self a favor, move on, and before you date again, grow up..

[Asker]

Thank you. Do you think he may regret what he has done and reach out?

[Opinion Owner]

Doubtful if I were him I would cut ties.

[GnatSocks]

No, that is dead, buried, and the dirt has been packed down. It seems like you were judgmental, immature (well you both are), and neither of you communicated in a healthy way. At this point, you pack it up and learn from the experience.

[allthesttars_]

i think you should apologize and tell him it won’t happen again. he will be chasing you again

[Asker]

I sent him a message the next day after his last message but I don't think it sent as he has blocked my number.

[allthesttars_]

maybe try being friends, see if that could help. he will probably view you better.