Hypothetically speaking, if you have to choose between old love and new love, which one would you choose?

[daddy]

[HawkPerception]

I think there's some things we can take from the past and some things we can take from the present.

In really old times, I don't think it was so much love as much as necessity. People got together to have kids to help them with work and pass on their legacy. Arranged marriages were definitely more common and people were chosen based on assets and benefits they provide to each other's family. During these times, men led the family and made all the decisions, no question about it.

Then later, when necessity and Maslow's hierarchy of needs was more satisfied than the past generations, people started to marry for love and seek it. Men still led for the most part, and women still respected men deeply. This was the industrial era when all the infrastructure we have today was being built by men. It was a dynamic where the man was the breadwinner and the woman was a stay at home wife. I think this generation was great because women deeply respected men and were fully in their feminine energy.

And then there's nowadays... where feminism has not only made women equal, but it went further and gave them more power than men... at least when it comes to rights and laws that cater to them. Many women nowadays still want men to provide for the majority of costs even though they get paid equally and have the same opportunity as men. They are much more masculine and many now hold the ideology that they do not need men at all (men do not say the same about women). And that is due to technology and the infrastructure we have built. This is the only day and age where you can live by staying at home 24/7. You can work from home, order all your groceries from home, order any services you want for your house from home... literally just never leave. For that reason, many women do not see the value men provide anymore. It is no longer a physical era, but a technological era. We get with people purely based on compatibility nowadays, which in my opinion is a great thing. But I think most women nowadays have lost a lot of their feminine touch as they had in the past and they are not okay with a man leading. If anything in relationships nowadays, women tend to make most of the calls. Obviously there are some that still hold traditional values and let a man lead, but those are usually the ones that expect a man to provide for them in every day, which is somewhat unrealistic with nowadays economy. Most households require dual income.

Women nowadays also tend to leave men on a whim any time there's any little issue they have with them. Couples don't work through issues as they did in the past because everyone is so accessible nowadays. A few swipes for a girl and she can find her next date by the end of the day. And girls get MUCH more attention than men ever will, especially online, which is what the world seems to have come to. So right now you have a bunch of ego inflated, entitled women that believe they do not need a man and if they do get into a relationship and don't like any little thing, they leave, rather than try to come to a compromise and work through the issue. It's why divorce rates are so high as well. And nearly 70% of divorces are initiated by the wife.

The things I think we could take from the past is the feminine energy and women respecting men much more than they do now. And the things I think we can take from the present is equality and compatibility. I don't completely agree with the man being the head of the household, but I certainly don't agree with the woman being in charge either. I think if you're in a relationship, you should make decisions together, but the woman should let the man be in his masculine energy and lead to an extent. I think that compatibility is the most important aspect of a relationship. To me compatibility is basically similarities you have with that person. Similar views, interests, sense of humor, way of thinking, style of communication, goals in life, sexual compatibility, physical attraction, etc.

I think most women nowadays have issues or hate the idea of being submissive to man and will fight against that idea to the death. But I think deep down that's causing them their own unhappiness. Because they're not in their feminine energy. If you have all those aspects I mentioned in a relationship, I think both the man and woman will genuinely be happier.

[ManInChains]

Neither. All of my old love attempts were cheaters except for 1 who I honest didn't feel anything for and broke up with the day after Valentines Day. I'm also not interested in meeting anyone new.

[DishLady]

It depends on all the people involved here, obvi.


With “old love” there’s always the potential of falling into an old trap/pattern that you clearly abandoned at some point in your past.


With “new love” everything is exciting and new but perhaps also anxiety-driven and without the “old shoe” comfort level of “old love”…


Which means it’s up to you. Are you more a creature of habit (in which case “old love” may be more appealing) or are you more adventurous (in which case “new love” has its obvious charms)?

[jennifer_bloom]

A new love is a mystery door, it could lead to great blessing or great trauma. An old love is stable, you know what you are buying or not buying.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Diving into the deep end with a question like this, I see! Picking between an old flame and a new spark is the kind of choice that could spin hearts and heads. If I were to choose, I’d lean towards new love. Why, you ask? It's all about the thrill of discovering each other, the excitement of creating new memories, and the chance to grow together from the very start. Old love has its charm, with its deep understanding and shared history, but new love brings the opportunity to explore, learn, and fall in love all over again. Each has its magic, but there's something irresistible about new beginnings. 💘

[guitar]

Choosing between old love and new love is a deeply personal decision and can vary greatly depending on individual circumstances. Here are a few considerations that might help in making such a decision:

Old Love /Pros:

History and Shared Experiences: An established relationship with shared memories, experiences, and a deep understanding of each other.

Emotional Connection: Often, the emotional bond in old love can be stronger due to the time spent together.

Trust and Stability: Trust is typically well-established, and there's a sense of stability and comfort.

Cons:

Stagnation: The relationship might have become stagnant or routine.

Unresolved Issues: Long-standing problems or conflicts that haven't been addressed might persist.

Complacency: Sometimes, old love can lead to taking each other for granted.

New Love / Pros:

Excitement and Novelty: New love brings excitement, novelty, and the thrill of getting to know someone new.

Growth and Change: It can provide opportunities for personal growth and new experiences.

Potential for Improvement: Lessons learned from past relationships can be applied to build a healthier dynamic.

Cons:

Uncertainty: The future of the relationship is uncertain, and there's a risk it might not work out.

Building Trust: Trust and understanding need to be built from scratch.

Adjustment Period: Adjusting to each other's habits and preferences can be challenging.

[thegreenyogi]

New love. What's in the past stays in the past for me. If it didn't work then it won't work now. The dynamics of a relationship doesn't change with time because people don't change. So present and future always.

[sheikalana]

I always live in the present moment and hopeful for the future. What's in the past stays in the past so I have to say new love.

[Kreneman]

New love because I have learned from my mistakes with my old love.

[TacosRAwesome]

New love or current love. Old love was a dumpster fire.

[handsomelad70]

New because new love is (or should be) more exciting.

[IWILLPLEASEYOU]

If the old person is the former one, I would have to ask yourself about why isn't that person not the current one?

[DrPepper12]

Old love. New can be risky

[Alice18]

Of course new

[dustybiker2]

I've never followed others. My own love.

[Nikki1989]

New. I am always moving forward.

[theycallme_jd]

A fine love from a timespan in between.

[impalabill77]

Depend who i get along better woth.

[CriticalCatDad]

Neither