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Random scenario but im curious about your views on it. Say you dating someone for about a year. Or close to a year and you love them. They love you etc..

And then a terrible horrible accident happens that leaves them physically and also mentally disabled to a certain extent in that they able to understand you. But they cannot communicate properly themselves.

You are in early 20s. Would you stay in the relationship and become their care taker or stay in the relationship but let a professional caretaker handle them. Or would you feel you need to break it off? Does that seem understandable to you or does it seem cruel. I'm curious on your views.

For me. This may seem cruel. But I dont think I would be prepared to commit to a relationship where I can no longer communicate properly with my girlfriend or spend proper time with her. I would remain friends and care for her a lot when im there. But I personally am not strong enough. Call me all the names you want. But im being honest. What is your view?

I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half now. We met when I was a freshman and he was a senior in Highschool. But after a few months of dating we both had to move. Long distance has been really rough for me. We talk every single day. But I feel like I've distanced myself a little and dont feel the same. I still love him but I dont know how much longer I can do long distance. We will at least have another 4 years apart. Which is a long time for long distnace. The thing is I dont want to break up. He has become such a central part of my life I can't imagine not being with him. I tried breaking up once a few weeks ago but quickly regretted it and changed my mind. He and I connect in many ways, more than I've ever connected with anyone before. But there's also many things that we are different about. But I guess that's normal. My parents dont like me dating him. And so, so far we have only been able to visit once for almost 3 days a few months back. When he visited things felt comfortable but I didn't have the spark that I was expecting to have like what we used to have back when we lived near each other. And the fact of being apsrt but still dating makes it really tough. Because I'm a physical person. And so I want to be able to do physical things. But I can't, and I can't go look for that contact from anyone else because I'm in a relationship with him, but can't touch him.
I don't know of I should break up and hope to get over him and move on. Then I wouldn't have the pain of being unavle to be with him because of focus on moving on.
Or I could stay with him, and hope in a few years time things will work out and we can be with eachother permanently.
I've been struggling with making a decision for months. I can't come to a conclusion and I need help deciding. I've talked to him about it and he says its up to me. My friends here say they think I'd be happier if I broke up with him and tried to find someone closer. Thoughts?