Have you ever dated someone who wasn't your physical type ?

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I''m latina and I just started dating a white guy two months ago , the thing is he isn't my type , he has medium brown hair and hazel eyes. He does have a good heart and tries to do everything to make me happy. His love and emotional support is what means a lot to me in the relationship. I am disappointed he's not the guy who I imagined being with. This my first serious relationship at 21 . I really want a golden blonde hair - blue eyed boyfriend/ husband who is romantic and support me emotionally. Is this too much im asking for? I know i sound shallow , I feel i deserve my dream man. I don't want to end up marrying someone who I feel isn't my type or my ideal man. I dont want to settle for less either. Should I break up with my boyfriend? I know love isn't based on looks but the heart and how the person treats you should matter. Don't we all deserve our ideal partner?

Dali-chan · Accepted Answer

I am sorry do disappoint you honey, but you don’t love this man. You should break up with him, because he deserve a woman that will really love him for what he is, not what he give. Life is not an otome game (those Japanese game when you simulate flirts with hot guys that you chose) you don’t chose a man for his look but his personality. And you said that you were a Latina, so you’re probably a brunette, would you be happy if the man you love told that he wanted you to blue eyed blonde haired girl? Then something you can’t be, untile you do change yourself? If you really loved him, you will find him attractive even if he was ugly. Be sure that a carring and loyal man is really hard to fine these days, so you should know that it’s not blonde hair and blue eyes that will make you happy. I never had a type of man, so I can’t really answer your questions but I know that a pretty face will never equal a beautiful soul.

I_Do_Mind · Accepted Answer

We all want a blond hair and blue eyes guy who supports us emotionally but some times you have to wake up and smell the reality coffee that the guy who treats you like a queen might not fit this description. I have the same problem but I am trying to be close with guys who are just nice but also not ugly. My current guy is not what I envisioned but he does support me emotionally. It is a good thing really because if he shows to be a cheater or a jerk later on I will be like "fine its over I wanted a blond hair blue eyed boyfriend anyways" inside instead of crying him a river.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It’s important for your own good, that you don’t get too caught up in your “physical type” because if you did find someone that matched your physical type, it would just show you how unimportant and how those physical traits are good enough to create a relationship where you would be happy. You should instead try to fixate and appreciate characteristics in personality and chemistry because if you do, then all of a sudden that attraction will lead to finding whomever attractive regardless of looks.
When I was younger I had all these criteria and only considered certain looks, and allowed myself to overlook things, red flags, simply because their looks smoothed things over. Over time, I started avoiding my “ideal looking girl” as it just meant trouble and wasted time usually

GreenGold1992 · Accepted Answer

You shouldn't be so picky, as long as you're happy together, that's all that should matter. You really shouldn't break up with him over his looks unless you're absolutely disgusted and can't stand the sight of him. This isn't settling for less, yes we'd all like to settle with our dream partners, but that's just what it is: a dream partner, someone that's not likely to exist. Instead we should really settle for someone who treats us right and makes us happy and we feel the same way about them in return.

pasoccer · Answer

I don't think it's shallow, but you're not likely to get your ideal guy. I don't like blondes for example, but I dated one recently for a year. Her other qualities kept me interested and happy in the relationship. She had the perfect body outside of the hir, but the hair still bothered me. It wasn't a deal breaker, but it was always there.
Everyone is different and can handle different things. If it's a deal breaker, then move on. Keep in mind, finding a guy that is emotionally compatible with you and treats you right is very rare. Keep that in mind before you make a decision.

winterfox10 · Answer

LMFAO You think you "deserve" your ideal partner... listen, relationships are all about making the best of each other. I guarantee that you're never going to quite find that ideal partner you're looking for. I met my ideal partner once and she disgusted me as a person.

You aren't thinking about this from your guy's perspective though... your boyfriend puts up with shit from you that wouldn't fly from anyone else, and the reason he does that is because he thinks you're worth the trouble.. You don't have to marry the guy you're dating if you don't want, but don't go talking about your ideal partner. See where things go with the guy you're dating now.

Robin3399 · Answer

honestly it depends on what you focus more on I mostly focus on the personality but you know I'd rather have I decent sized body than a tub of lard but if it's a guy who's somewhat overweight but he has a really good heart and loves me for me I'd take him any day over the chiseled abs who just wants me for sex

findingdreamland-1 · Answer

Cleary he is good guy. More than that he really cares for you. You are lucky. I do not believe in types but clearly attraction is important. Do you feel attracted to him?
Appearance is just what you see. Do not limit yourself. He is more than you see.

fundork89 · Answer

If you are attracted to them then there may not be a long term future. I've dated all different types, but the girl I dated was skinny and I don't date skinny. Needless to say, I love her and attracted to her and even though she wasn't what I would've considered "ideal", she is perfect to me. Love changes your ideas and pushes past your expectations. Sounds like you know he's a good man and is what you want personality wise, but you don't love him. From my experience, people tend to want to date someone exotic or different from what they are used to. Different isn't always better though. I hope you one day find the man you truly love whether it's your "ideal" man or not.

hello_kitty_man · Answer

Well maybe you should not try to put him in your proverbial box of what your type is, because you maybe selling yourself short. If I only went after people who fit my type, then my life would be dull and boring. I personally think that you would be much happier.

TotallyNotJosh · Answer

Just dye his hair and get him blue contact lenses, done. Your dream guy is complete😂 Don't be stupid and sacrifice a connection for something you could get bored of taste in looks can be like taste for food it can change at random without you even knowing it 👍

Mickey9999 · Answer

Forget who u imagined. There’s no type. You will be missing out on some terrific guys and as you age, you will realize of how little importance looks and types are. The guy is what’s most important.

Hozi89 · Answer

if his actions are true love towards you then. you learn. to love who he is not what he isn't because u will meet a guy who looks the part and never. come. close. to this guy.

000_000 · Answer

Why are you comparing him to someone that only exists in your head?

NerdInDenial · Answer

Well, that is up to you but you will have to make compromises.

Anonymous · Answer

Well not just break up with him. Tell him the truth do. “ I’m looking for 6,2, Athletic build guy who making 100k a year. That has blonde hair and blue eyes. He totally going respect your wishes. You will find the man of your dreams in no time.

studDMuffF1n · Answer

So many women out of touch with reality. Life isn't a fairy tale your not a princess. The notebook is "just" a movie. If you enjoy your time with him then without him then that answers your question.

CartNowon · Answer

I'm personally am not stopping until I find my perfect one. If you settle you will lose time when you 2 divorce later.

sc15022 · Answer

I dated someone who was bigger than what I'm attracted to now, but I wasn't very picky back then. It was alright while it lasted but she broke up with me about a month later without really telling me why so that was that

Anonymous · Answer

I feel the same every time I’m in a relationship. There’s so many guys out there the chances that you’ll end up with a blonde guy with blue eyes aren’t that big. If you’re still attracted to him then don’t break up with him.

Intraluminal · Answer

We deserve nothing. Does everyone deserve their ideal partner? Well considering that, even if she were willing, Jessica Alba can only marry so many men, I'd have to say, "no."

LordChaoticX · Answer

As women like to tell us men. "It isn't buildabitch. com" I say you found a really good guy that will treat you right.

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like you're watching too many fairytale movies. Grow up first, you're obviously not ready for a relationship let alone marriage!

Aaroh5 · Answer

Break up with him. He deserves better.

weaponsdude · Answer

Love isn't based off looks alone, no. It sure does help matters significantly with sex, though.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah my current boyfriend doesn’t have my ideal look. But regardless he’s amazing. So I can deal with it

pinayfit · Answer

break up with him, he deserve someone that will love him the way he deserves to be.

IsoUser · Answer

I am divorced 50yo with two college graduates. Son and daughter, with wife who I'm friends with. Don't Judge everyone on skin color, it's the man inside you want to know.

Kurodo · Answer

That's really really shallow, if you burn down bridges to chase something like that you're liable to ending up alone in the end.

LegateLanius · Answer

If you fee that way, leave him, you aren't compatible.

thottiana · Answer

Obviously you don’t actually like him if this is what you’re thinking about

Anonymous · Answer

do we all deserve our ideal partner? since everyones ideal is highly swayed by society

rockrewls · Answer

Well aren't you special, you should leave him so he can find someone better.

ravedave · Answer

Dated? No. Hooked up with? Yes

LuckyLou504 · Answer

Looks don't mean Shit if a person has a good ❤️ Ride the Wave Ya Heard Me

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah fall in love with fantasies not real people lol

Pamina · Answer

No, and I don't think I ever would.

Mitch6192 · Answer

I tried, but couldn't.

_AngelPearl · Answer

Yes I did it was the worst experience.

SomeGuy965 · Answer

Yeah, a few. Fucked the shit out of them.

ICantthinkofa · Answer

Compromise

IsiahStewart · Answer

Yeah

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