We dated briefly, he was fun, open and positive but I was in a bad place in life. It didn't work. He literally told me "you say you like me but you don't act like you do. I want to be with someone who wants me just as much as I want her". I dated others but always remembered him... 3 years later I'm living abroad for work, planning to move back home, doing much better in life. I decided to text him, he was happy to hear from me and a week later came to see me! This time I was the happy and positive one, he was repressed and even a little bitter. We also spoke about it, he also noticed that. We spent a week together, he said it was better than he could have imagined. We kissed a lot and spent most of the time together sightseeing and getting to know each other. He even told his family about me and when we bumped into my manager on the street, he said "I came here for her". I genuinely felt we had something good and mutual. After he was gone, he didn't initiate any connection, only me. But he'd say he misses me but also say there's no way it is going to work as long as we live in different countries. He kept in saying "I like you a lot, but I don't fully open up until I know it is real, and right now it isn't. what's the point of being upset your not near me when I'm not sure you will ever move back?". So I genuinely thought him not initiating any connection was his way to protect himself from getting too attached and then get hurt. A few weeks ago I told him I'm moving back home. He told me he's sorry but he's seeing someone and realized already while spending time with me that it wasn't "it". I don't mind he's seeing someone as we never agreed to wait for each other or so. But I was deeply hurt by him saying he already felt it wasn't "it" while spending time with me. This is not how he acted, nor what he communicated to me months later. Was he lying when we spent time together or spoke after he was gone, or is he lying now? And why would he do that?
We dated briefly, then again. He seemed to be into me now he is changing the narrative. Why?
