He hugged me 10+ times during the first date - interested or being a player?

[missvivacious]

Went on a first date this weekend. And it is sort of feeling like mixed signals. Date was dinner + a bar with dancing. Dinner was good - lots of topics covered during the convo. We got into briefly what we are looking for - he seems to want to confirm physical connection before commitment. I need to have multiple levels of connecting before committing. He paid.

After dinner we went to a bar with live music. He bought the drinks / cover charge. It was too loud to talk much. So we were kinda just vibing to the music dancing a bit, and making some occasional convo.

During the convo I would have to lean in and talk directly in his ear, grab his arm. So we broke the touch barrier. At some point during the evening, he’d lean in to comment on something and started pulling my in for hugs of varying lengths. Maybe every third comment he imitated or he replied to. This happens a bunch of times in the evening. He kept his hands waist and up. Some hugs were short, some were longer - maybe spilling into minutes. Some hugs were around my waist. Some he pulled in around my head (the height difference meant my head landed roughly the middle of his pecs).

There was dancing, light hand holding and generally a lot of closeness throughout the second half of the date?

The end of the date, he walked me to my car and gave me a hug goodbye. And then after I settled up my parking ticket he pulls me in for another longer and closer hug. But nothing else.

I texted to say I got home safe and had fun, and let’s do it again. He replies I had fun. And it has been crickets the next day. Now I am thinking he wanted to get more physical sooner. What do you all think?

[Guy13]

Hugs are kind of innocent and suggests this guy is both inexperienced and very respectful. It is difficult to really tell which is his predominate tendency.

He obviously is communicating interest. What he mat be scared of is that he over did it. He needs permission to kiss you... And, he may need permission to call you especially after he Risked in his mind. SEND him a hug emoji... or two fists touching and see what happens.

He is probably a very devoted guy... maybe smothering once he is secure in his Do (s) and Do Not Do (s)

[Bethany22]

I'd wait a few days before getting worried. And the fact that it was hugs and not kisses is a good sign that he wasn't trying to rush things. I've had similar guys like that before. Although the constant hugging seems superficial, that alone isn't enough of a clue to read into his actual intensions unfortunately.

[Anonymous]

That seems desperate to me.