Help! How to lose weight?

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Hi everyone =)

I am 26 (F) struggling with my weight for the past couple of years. I have been on diet but failed every single time. My current weight is 89.8kg and my height is 173cm, I am the heaviest I have ever been. This has impacted my life and my mental health too.

I searched online for so many advice and honestly is so overwhelming. I work the typical 9-5 (WFH) and live in the Scotland, so going out for walk is very challenging due to the unpredictable weather.

I don’t have a nearby gym, hence why I can’t join it =\ For the past couple of weeks I tried to eat 1550 kcal (calculated online) and track my calories on MyFitnessPal but I was miserable and so hungry, and after a while I started to binge eat.

I just don’t know what to do anymore with my life, I am tired of being like this anymore :-(

Any advice will be highly appreciated. Can someone please advise how can I start?

Flatmanlewis · Accepted Answer

So as much as I’d love to type you and answer and just tell you “that’s all you need to do” the truth is losing weight is a paradox. It’s super simple and easy to grasp. Eat right, exercise more, and make positive changes. Yet, the truth is that if losing weight was the only thing we were doing that may be enough…but we’re not.

You are really only faced with one true choice: you need to change and adopt a whole new way of life and mindset. This is daunting for someone who has not been exposed to this before. You really need expert advice, guidance, and mentorship. A role model and truthfully one who has been on the road you are trying to navigate. Expert advice from a power lifter or extreme distance runner won’t be of much use to you. Seek out a woman who has made your same journey or even. ( Check out Gina Carla Swiss. She is an absolutely stunning model who was once very large. She is quite open about her journey and may be inspiring to you.).

GaG, apps, and random posters (like me, ironically) are the wrong place to seek guidance. You can do this but you need to learn how to eat right and keep you focused.

Small changes you can to today until you plug into a fitness trainer (which aren’t free, but really key for someone in your position): dump sodas outright. Water & brewed tea or coffee only. No more sweets, treats, and “I’m just going to have a little bit” sneaks. Buy and use produce and fresh groceries and learn how to cook them healthily. Get good sleep and mentally accept that it took years to get this way. It won’t change in a month. Stay after it and it WILL change however.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

. How committed are you really. ... If you stop drinking all sugar Waters stop taking sugar get it out of your life if you walk at a fast pace 30 minutes a day for 30 days you will watch everything on your body tone up but you have to walk at a fast pace you have to drink lots of water and good water not bottled water bottled water sucks more than tap water just about you have to eat the right foods you have to be motivated if you do this for 30 days 30 minutes a day 60 minutes a day would be even better but if you do it for 30 minutes a day you will watch even your tip of your nose tone up

winetime · Accepted Answer

Girl, don't ask how to lose weights on these sites. Everyone will think they're a fucking expert and they will just give you shit advice.

Honestly, there are multiple reasons as to why someone is overweight. Binge eating due to stress? Hormone imbalance? It's good to think about that too and if it's something that needs therapy, that might be good!

Best thing to do is make small adjustments. For example do you drink soda? Try sugar free soda? Next step could be fizzy water? Whatever feels right to you. Changing your eating habits will be more favourable than any diet because frankly it is just more sustainable of you can keep a change up.
Change regular pasta to whole grain pasta. Make sure to chew a lot on one bite.
Look for delicious recipes with minimal processed food as possible. However eating a burger sometimes, that's okay! You're human, enjoy the things that aren't too good but super delicious too.

Moving is of course important, perhaps a walk here and there. It doesn't need to be a gym working out 4 times a week immediately. One step at a time. Small changes over time are way more manageable than restricting yourself from food as the chances of falling back into old habits is just that high.

Please try to look for fun ways to change up your diet. A healthy relationship with food is much more important.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

From my experience, having tried a variety of diets (and I wasn't even that heavy, just unhappy), the most rewarding/helpful thing for me has been to keep busy and listen to my body. Genuinely listen.
When I'm hungry, I eat. When I'm not, I don't.
I did Keto - lost 8kg in 3 months, gained another 10 when I quit. It's a lifestyle, so definitely wouldn't recommend this if you don't want to do it for the rest of your life.
I did fasting - no weight loss.
I started weight lifting - no weight loss. Bút definitely started body recompositioning.
I would train 5 times a week and weight lift another 3 days.
Still unhappy? Yes.
Eventually got sick during the holidays 2023, lost some 3kg, and haven't gained that since.
In fact, I lost appetite - as a result, I lost 8 kg in the past half year, just because I got sick once and no longer feel as hungry as I used to.
After years of struggling to find 'the solution,' I've come to learn its literally just listening to your body.
Eat when hungry; work out when inactive.
And if you can't go to a gym, bring the gym to you. I bought my own weights including barbell, during covid so I could work out at home. It'll be cheaper in the long run anyway.

CrabCakes11 · Answer

First start by changing what you eat. Replace high sugar foods with lower sugar alternatives. Cut out sodas and juice and drink sparkling water or regular water instead. Eat more fruits, veggies, complex carbs, and protein. Avoid high sodium foods. When you feel hungry, drink some water, as often the brain confuses thirst and hunger. Try to be more active in your life as much as you can. Seize the opportunity when the weather is nice. Maybe do a 10-20 minute small work out at home before bed every night. PM me if you need any more help! Good luck!!

Anonymous · Answer

smaller portions of your favourite food, and try finding alternative snacks.
also look for lower intensity workouts on youtube you can go to (depending on your job you can alter this to how much walking/exercise you do in your job).
I ditched calorie tracking. I do some squats/planks/pushup (only one type) daily over the work week for as long as i feel i can do it for. Just from the above bits, I've lost a stone and a bit already over approx a month (i'm not really tracking it either, though i now plan to weigh myself every Friday). I can still enjoy food and takeaways and don't feel half as miserable and its working for me.

Chelsdope0 · Answer

I did better when I focused on healthy lifestyle vs an actual diet. I ate more veggies with my food, high protein and ate fruit…

Download some simple dinner , lunch recipes or use Pinterest..

Don’t worry about the gym.. you’ll just waste your membership bc you’re not disciplined.

Start by drinking nothing but water, no junk and start going for a walk or do an activity at home…

I lost 10 pounds in 3 weeks doing that..

Meal planning helps… don’t let yourself get hungry

OfDeath · Answer

I will tell you how. But first I should say that I can see already that part of your problem is will power. I will tell you directly that you will need to do better on that front if you are to succeed.

This is how you will lose weight. No fad diets, just follow this diet of what to eat rather than what not to: 2 meals per day morning and evening consisting of mostly plants (fresh vegetables), a little bit of meat and a smaller amount of the least farinaceous carbohydrates you can find which will help you absorb the nutrition from the vegetables and meat and absolutely no sugary drinks or snacks. Drink water and not sodas. You could get away with 1 coffee with added sugar in the morning if that is what you’re used to.

Do that for 3 months and I guarantee you will lose weight and improve your overall health.

Good luck.

And could I ask if you would please get back to me after the 3 months and tell me how you went? I would greatly appreciate that.

osmanthus · Answer

Have you tried the following...

Therapy for emotional eating, looking into a thyroid or other health issue like PME (Pre-Menstrual Exacerbation) that might require surgeries, liposuction of fat, and allergies to certain foods?

If part of the reason you're heavier than normal on BMI scale is caused by genetics, this might require an important discussion about how much you realistically need to weigh to be healthy and whether gene therapy or tweaking might help you. I don't think doctors would object to you going this route, if indeed, it is the case that you are clinically obese and desperately need help because it's causing you hell (you can't walk without pain and you can't complete simple tasks like putting your shirt on without help).

Jaz2022 · Answer

if u look on tiktok shop u can buy some that does help. u must be very beautiful if u live in scotland i personally believe that scotland and irish people are beautiful asf. when u do eat try to eat fruit veggies protein hummus etc.. if u want to eat other foods i would say do something like veggie chips. im in the same boat u r but in a different situation i have to go to my doctor to help me out because i got something wrong with my stomach. and another thing that can help u lose weight is magenisum and fiber... it both medicines that u can get from ur local store I don't know if scotland has that but it worth a shot.

SotiCoto · Answer

Boo to weight-loss... Your BMI is in my strike-zone.

Still, I guess I could try to help. Funny you mention unpredictable weather... I think your worst enemy right now is that it is early Summer. Weight loss is a lot easier in the cold because your body has to burn through more energy just to maintain an inner temperature. I've told people this tons of times: Exercise in the cold. The colder the better. And load yourself up with black coffee, no sugar. Caffeine is good for weight loss (though most sources tend to involve sugar, which counteracts the benefits).

Krista1224 · Answer

I’ve always been slim in my whole life. So I have credits on this topic-

You don’t even need to exercise. You just need to eat less and more often instead of eating a big fat meal. I literally eat whatever i want (chips, chocolate, ice cream…) BUT i eat small portion every time, because i get tired of the taste and wants to take a break. It takes me 2-3days to finish a bag of chips.

handsomelad70 · Answer

Dang. I hate to say this, lady, but you're almost exactly my size.

Because you're a young woman, your metabolism is quicker than that of a septuagenarian such as I, but perhaps you should consider riding a bike, jogging, and other low-density exercises, plus reducing carbs and sugar. A few more lifestyle changes should get you to your desired weight.(Even in 2024, most women won't mention their weight, so if nothing else, you're a confident young woman.)

NadYdnaL · Answer

Eat in a calorie deficit which means eat less calories than you burned. 1. Track your food intake,2. eat mostly health foods with a little bit of junk food, 3. drink mostly water now and again diet soda won’t hurt you 4. Track your steps 5. Weight training min 3 days a week 6. Add low intensity cardio with a bit of high intensity cardio. 7. Track your Weigh and waist measurement 8. Adjust calories or increase activity when you Plateau for 2-3 weeks in a row. if u have any questions message me.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Is there anything you like to do that's active? I am not one for team sports, so I hike, paddle, bike, etc.

Maybe pick something you can do outdoors that's of interest to you and schedule to do it a few times a week.

The other thing you can do is pick up a physical part time job, why not get paid to workout.

FreyaRed · Answer

Try to reduce carbs to 300 kcal. daily. Especially carbs your body absorbs very rashly like sugars and starches. Replace those calories with diary, meat, fish and low carb veggies and try to eat less processed carbs. Whole grain graham bread instead of white bread, whole grain pasta, oatmeal instead corn flakes...
Crash diets end up mostly with yo-yo effect. Changing your diet is a long marathon not a 100m sprint.

electromagnetic · Answer

Count your macros and not your carbs. Be consistent without restricting yourself. If you know you cannot go without sugars, be selective of the types of sugars you’re consuming.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Look into a keto diet (20g of net carbs or less per day). Weigh out your food portions for each day, drink electrolytes, and I guarantee that you WILL lose weight. You don't need 1,500 calories per day, try eating 1,800, or even 2,000. But weigh your day's food out. Drink whole fat cream with your coffee.

Drink bone broth as well.

OtterMan68 · Answer

cut out refined sugar! Cut back on white flour. Try KETO Exercise regularly. Drink a tall glass of water with each meal. This is not a temporary thing: it's a lifestyle change.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Have you tried Slimming world? It works pretty good and it helps keep you on track when you have to weigh in every week.

noohair · Answer

I was diabetic, taking insulin. I went to my doctor. I stopped eating carbs and dropped 60 pounds without exercise. Stopped insulin too. I am not hungry and eat only one meal a day. I miss the bread, but bread gave me heartburn so it is all good. Good luck.

Billlewis · Answer

Add some fiber to your diet and try to get access to a swimming pool.

Lottifan · Answer

Cut out sugary food and drinks, cut out fried food,, cut out starchy food, cut out cakes, biscuits and crisps, drink plenty of water, if you feel hungry have some fruit. Try walking and swimming to.

leahzrc · Answer

I am skinny because I am 8 years vegan and addicted to nicotine

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

You're ideal weight for 5ft 6 is around 10 stone, but how much do you want to lose?

boggboss · Answer

Reduce your eating to somthing u can manage and go on walks ir runs

Makeushiver · Answer

Difficult to tell from stats but it sounds as if you may be large other than fat. Usually okay. I know many guys who prefer it some of whom have expressed it in less than polite terms which I shall leave out unless you'd like to hear specifics

DrPepper12 · Answer

I'm on Wegovy / ozempic and lost 30 lbs so far. See if you can get a hold of that prescription shit 1x a week at home

In_Trance · Answer

Calorie deficit is all you need to know.  A good fitness and or work out regime wouldn't hurt either.  If you're really serious about it hire a trainer and a dietitian

butterly248 · Answer

I've got an eating disorder. I was around your weight 2 years ago. I threw put my scale. I'm not sure if I've lost or gained. Stop trying to lose weight. It will probably just come off naturally

ClaircognizantEmpath · Answer

Hi, i have some idea however i would prefer dm but your anon can you message me?

douride2 · Answer

The easiest way I know how to lose weight is push back away from the table. Eat less & do more. It always works for me.

Jkgordon · Answer

Get a physical Endo Dr check glucose thyroid also walk a lot

Anonymous · Answer

Drink milk, it's filling and tastes better than watrer

Anonymous · Answer

Ozempic baby. It's true.

rebeliouse · Answer

cut out carbs eat lots of protein and greens do weights at home use household items as weights like 5gal bottle of water do exercises that will shape your body like squats etc

msc545 · Answer

Ozempic is a VERY effective weight loss drug. Ask your doctor about it.

Anonymous · Answer

try vegan keto it'll end the cravings in 3 days/ 1 week

david77766 · Answer

Just love yourself, who cares about others opinion, if you want to lose some weight do it because you want it, not because others.

boobliker · Answer

eat less work and move around more! its tuff

MattyIce_IceBaby · Answer

Eat less & move more! :-)

Benitomussoloni · Answer

lol you're bloated like a pig

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

TRUST ME... LOTS AND LOTS OF CARDIO

jahaims · Answer

Calorie deficit

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