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Okay so basically, this guy I was hooking up with last year started to mean more to me, but since I was a freshman in college, I wasn't sure if I was ready for a relationship. I still needed to figure out who I was and I wasn't sure if he was interested in me that way, although he was definitely not a total douche. Fast forward to the summer, I kept thinking about him. I felt so bad about the way I ended things (aka, I didn't, I just ignored his text one day after he took me on a date after I admitted to being confused about what I wanted). We never talked after that date, but he answered my text over the summer and accepted my apology.

Now this year, I'm finding myself really attracted to him. Like for sure, I would like to date him. We were acquaintances and I made the move to text him. We have texted regularly and I spent the night with him. He has to know I'm interested. It's been two days though (I was started our last two conversations) and I haven't heard from him. I can't stop thinking about him and I'm nervous he doesn't trust that I'm interested. My friend thinks he'll text me come the weekend, which I wouldn't mind all that much, but I have no idea if he wants a relationship at all compared to hooking up, let alone with me. I have a huge crush on him, but I don't want to be clingy, especially this early on. We've only been in close contact for a little over a week... so is it okay for me to not text him first again? Should I just wait and see if he makes a move, and if not, stop pursuing him? He has begun conversations with me twice, and I started us out / started the most recent convos we have had.

Sorry that was so long! Should I text him again, or will he text me on his own if he's actually interested? My only concern is that because I ditched him in the past, what if he expects me to do the pursuing?

I met this guy about 5 years ago. We met as co workers, became friends, at first because we were both dealing with the same issues in our lives. After, we found we connected, had similar interests and it progressed into a very close friendship. I was in an abusive relationship, and as the violence got continually worse, i turned to him more and more for comfort. During this time, he developed feelings for me. Looking back, im not so sure i felt the same... lets just say my mind was clouded... and i felt safe with him... but i believed i was starting to catch feelings at the time. I do know for a fact i could trust him, he went to great lengths to ensure my happiness and well being, to the point of allowing himself to go without things he needed to meet my needs. We fell off after he literally attacked my then partner one day when he witnessed the abuse. I stayed with my abuser, and my friend became desperate... to the point of acting crazy, constant calls, showing up at all hours proclaiming his love, even trying to stop me from leaving his house at times. I cut him off and didn't speak to him for over a year. I finally left my abusive partner four months ago and relocated. Im single and trying to work on my life. I recently got back in touch with my friend on Facebook. We talked for a couple months, and forgetting or minimizing his past clingy behaviors, agreed to let him come visit me. He stayed for a week. I've repeatedly told him im not ready for a relationship and he claimed to understand, saying trust issues are understandable and he would wait as long as it took, still loves me, etc.. however. i do have feelings for him, but he began talking of spending forever with me, making me feel pressured. I also found out he slept with someone after claiming he would wait for me.. citing his own trust issues. He is too emotional and insecure.. saying he can't live without me, even pushing to live together! so I made him leave. What do i do now?