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Let me put it this way. I'm confident in the sense that I trust my own judgement a lot ((sometimes to the point where it becomes a flaw of mine)), but I'm NOT as confident in my ability to get other people to listen to me and follow what I'm saying. Whenever I try to, people will typically see me as this "wannabe-hardass" and not take me seriously.

So there's this guy I know from where I go to school. Whenever he asserts his judgement.. he goes about it JUST LIKE ME.
Like, EXACTLY the same way I do. The only difference is that people actually back down and shut up when he talks.

I just don't get it. Why is he able to get away with it but I'm not? It pisses me off so much. If people don't dare disrespect him, then they should by logic be the same way with me.

Don't you dare start with that "in order for people to listen to you, you need to listen to them" bullshit either. That's such crap. HE DOESN'T LISTEN TO PEOPLE!! If someone starts talking back to them, he just verbally beats them down and they still end up doing what he says so FUCKIN ZIP IT!!

I've heard that being confident that people will listen to you is what separates one from the other. I have always been a skeptic of that principal simply because I don't think I show the area of confidence that I'm lacking in. As I said, we both act pretty much the same way when our logic is challenged. But at this point, I'm getting pretty desperate for answers.

Reason I'm asking is that so many of them think they're all that and I've dated before and all, so no I don't lack confidence. I'm just asking to see how hard it would be to find a girl who has good standards