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Shortened version: In college 5 years ago I dated this guy Rob. He broke up with me after 4 months of dating to have sex with his ex.

The last 4 years I dated Brad a completely new guy that I met randomly. I was very serious with him but things turned bad and I ended it with him back in September of last year. Rob came back into my life around that time saying he always wanted another chance with me. I gave in (he was a rebound I suppose you could say) I ended up hanging out with him twice where we had sex both times just like back in the college days he ended it with me again.

I confided in his friend Aric to help me through this since I was getting over my 4 year break up and this Rob mess at the same time. Well around March Aric and I started talking and it turned into more. We ended up liking each other a lot and now are in a relationship/dating. We have met each other's families etc. Things are going well. Only problem is he has been keeping this a secret from his friend Rob. They live an hour away from each other so rarely see each other in person and are both busy with work.

This weekend Rob will be in town and Aric plans to tell him straight up that he is dating me and wants Rob to hear it from him and not other people. He isn't really asking for permission but just wants to respectfully tell him man to man. Aric told me that he thinks it'll go fine and that Rob will just have to accept it.

Well guys/girls has anyone ever been in the situation? Guys, how would you feel if you were either of them?

It was a perfect 2 year relationship, however I went to Uni & he wanted to join the marines & we agreed splitting up might be best. He was contacting me for a month and asked to meet me, we confessed we both still had feelings but he felt we couldn't be together so began a 'friends with benefits' type relationship, I confessed I had been on a date when we split, & my ex said he literally felt cheated on & had lost trust in me despite the fact we weren't together at the time.
I confessed I wanted more than this, so he explained that he still had feelings & hated the thought of me with anyone else, but that he felt the love had faded however stated it would be perfect in 5 years time. he again explained he needs to be on his own whilst joining the marines, which I completely understood.
I explained how this felt too much like a relationship so he made it clear we weren't back together & therefore began liking girls pictures 'for a confidence boost' & brought up the subject of being able to talk to other people however in now way meet up with them.
We were at mine where I received a phone call off an old male friend, my ex overheard my male friend ask if I was still with my ex which I replied 'no', I could see my ex was hurt but he simply said that 'the phone call was just shit'
The next day I was going out with some friends in town & uploaded a picture of myself onto Facebook in a dress which showed my cleavage which got a lot of male attention on likes and comments, then whilst drunk I unawarely deleted my ex off Facebook.
I confronted him (thinking he had deleted me) & he said that I looked like a cheap desperate attention seeking f'in slag in the picture i uploaded and wanted nothing to do with me. I asked him to meet but he said he didn't think he wanted to. 2 days later I realised I had deleted him so apologised, which lead him to apologise also, then we left it there. I'm 2 weeks into no contact. Why is he so hurt but doesn't love me? Do I fight for him?