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So I wrote this once but this site always messes it up and erases it.

long story short because I can't type it all again. My wife and I are married with a child. I recently became disabled and the homemaker. Last month we were trying to plan a little trip away together because it has been over 3 years since we have had any us time. Well the beginning of this week her cousin invited her and anyone she wants to bring to see a concert across the to a two day concert of all bands that we like and listened to 10 years ago when we met. Naturally I assumed when she said anyone you want I would not only be included but her first thought after our recent discussions. I wasn't, not only that but she wouldn't even ask if I could go for 3 days, then while we were still discussing it she went ahead and booked one ticket there before we even talked about it, a non refundable or transferable one to top it off too. She seems completely oblivious to my feelings as to not being invite or why I wouldn't want her to go alone. I have no problem with her doing things alone and in fact encourage it and enjoy knowing she is having a good time, however I feel this is different. I don't feel it is appropriate for a young recently married wife to go away on a 4 day vacation across the country to a 2 day crazy outdoor concert with her drug using cousin that always ditches her. I am concerned for her safety as well as hurt for her disregard of my feelings or saying she hears my feelings but is going to go anyways. She won't even talk to her cousin about me going and tell her how bad she wants me to go even though she claims she wants me to go, but she won't even ask.

Am I unreasonable to feel this way? I also see it as lasting memories for us if we go together like we were just talking about versus a permanent sore spot if she once again ditches me for her cousin. A cousin who undermines our relationship constantly and even when I first met my wife said she shouldn't have slept with a virgin if she wants to sleep around, also she invited my wife to go after my wife informed her of her plans to get her clit pierced, to which her cousin replied I didn't know you partied like that, want to come down to a concert.

I honestly don't feel that me telling her I do not want her to go and I won't be happy if she does unreasonable in the slightest because of our circumstances, We haven't gone anywhere in over 3 years, her cousin invited her down across the country to a 2 day crazy outdoor concert, her cousin always ditches her, invited her only after her comment on her piercing, we had plans to go away together and now those are gone for this, she has never traveled and will be alone on a plane, she claims to want me to go but won't risk asking her, and when I ask her straight out if she wants to go alone she won't answer, I don't think its right to prefer to go alone when your married and haven't done anything in 3 years together and because of this won't this year. I feel she takes me for granted.

Am I totally wrong?