Search Results: how far do i pursue her

I've found that in general, men and women do not "fall in love" together but rather one of the two will try to pursue or attract the other with a relationship in mind (or sex, if you're that kind of person). Furthermore, most would agree that is in someway more difficult to woo a pretty girl vs one who isn't quite so pretty.

That said, is there any objective difference between successfully courting an attractive woman and a more plain one (as a guy)?


If the answer is no, then likely the difficulty is that a man's confidence is affected, creating uncertainty and self-doubt. This is by far the most attractive option since it gives hope, but is it realistic?

If the answer is yes, than perhaps an attractive woman is intentionally pickier about her choice of romantic partners, knowing that she is in demand

I ask because I've grown increasingly sick of the invisible wall of separation that exists between me and some girls, simply because of some of my facial imperfections. I despise the thought of accepting a lower standard, or that I would have to hope that a beautiful girl would happen to have low enough standards to include me. It feels like being locked in a cage. I just want a girlfriend whom I can truly call beautiful without reservation so that I don't have to keep half-lying.

The average women's sexual value is pretty high, a lot higher than the average man's. But the average women's dating value is pretty much the same as the average guy. So the average women can get a hot guy to sleep with her but not to commit. Since she sleeps with the hot guy she thinks her dating value is as high as his and will think her dating value is far higher than the average man. She will thus only pursue the top men. Until she realizes the top men don't want her that way.