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This girl and I were best friends since 5th grade. We graduated high school in 2016. Neither of us go to college and we work. We have a lot of great memories together. We live like 5 minutes from each other. We got into a major blowout over something stupid and didn’t talk from May 2016 until July of 2018. She contacted me out of nowhere last year and wanted to hang out and we were fine and I gave her the benefit of the doubt and We both hung out every single day after work but it was too much we started fighting again and she was acting like the mean monster she can be and she wasn’t mentally sane. We said nasty things and broke up in December. Here we are in May and she calls my house and I wasn’t home at the time but my parents answered it. I changed my cell phone number because I got on an entire new plan and she didn’t know it. My parents said to me your 21 years old it’s your life and they don’t really like her but they never really have. I do worry about her but I’m not sure if she’s mentally there or why she is reaching out to me. Should I even bother calling her back and trying to make it work for a 3rd time? She can be very mean and nasty and bossy when she doesn’t get her way. She’s like a ticking time bomb. I’ll admit I can also not be the easiest person to get along with but I also know she has no friends. She is socially awkward as well as myself. I don’t wish anything bad on her and I do worry about her but she told me to kill myself when she was mad and sometimes I feel like she uses me. Her parents are also horrible parents. I don’t know if I should call back. The ball is in my court?

Is there ever a time where it's too LATE to say "I love you"? It's been going on almost a year and a half--and he keeps claiming he only sees me "as a toy" (but his actions speak louder than words)! He also asked if I had feelings for him; which I SAID I liked him a lot. Since then, he's acted a lot "nicer" and more worried about it ending etc. I'm scared that my friends with benefits/casual boyfriend can't truly love someone because he witnessed a divorce... and each parent remarrying, as well as his brother getting married (who now avoids him).

His past girlfriends have been short-lived, cheated on him OR acted like they really didn't want sex with him anymore! He's also kinda has a BAD reputation; so it's really hard for him to hold on to a girl for more than a few months... but with me--it's standing the test of time. He only seems to know how to use people. Now, if anything we're "using each other" or so it looks like that from HIS point of view. To my family, it looks like he's my actual boyfriend etc.

In reality, I'm in love with him. I feel like telling him I loved him will scare him off. That being said--I feel like he needs to know someone cares about him. It's kinda like a service in which we have sex with each other and it makes us happy... BUT I have similar interests with him... I don't know what to do. I'm NOT going to end this because it's still pretty fulfilling for me :) ! Neither of us really want marriage--EITHER. So, has it gone on too long to tell him how much I really love him?

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