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So this guy named Kian and I are both freshman in college and we have been dating for a few weeks. This past Friday we both went to a party and got pretty drunk. When I showed up to his frat house, I found him but then didn't see where he went so I got scared that he had gone to the third floor with some other girl but he had just gone to sleep. I wasn't going to go to bed so I stayed up and all of my sorority sisters had left because I told them I wasn't going to leave without Kian, so I leaned onto my two friends Riley and Isaiah for support because I was pretty much left by myself since Kian was asleep in another room. During that time, Riley who is my (ex) boyfriend's best friend was trying to kiss me because he was just as drunk as me if not more. I had told him that it would be wrong to do that to my boyfriend, but other people in that house had spread a rumor that we had made out and my boyfriend got really pissed. We decided to go home and Kian would not talk to me so I called him the next morning and thought everything would be ok if I just talked to him about what happened but before I could he broke up with me and told me things were over between us because of what he heard. It's been a day since we've talked becaue I'm trying to give him time to cool off, but eventually I am going to talk to him and tell him my side of the story. He hasn't changed our relationship on Facebook yet so I'm hoping that's a sign that he's not completely done with "us" yet.. I honestly am so upset right now because I don't want to lose him and I just want to work things out without having to go through an actual break up. What do you think I should do with this whole situation? Anything helps, thank you!

A few times when people brought up the ship he said"I dont want her she's shit" but another time he asked me what I thought about him (by text) I've caught him looking at me in class but 3/4 times im with my best friend who I think he might like.. Help what does this mean. My friends r telling me to let go but I can't. I go to school in asia so the guys are different than from other guys.

I've played it by the book for the past 4 years, referring to Emily Post etiquite guides everytime she has behaved disrespectfully towards me, my home and even my husband. I've kept my opinions to myself, rarely voicing my frustrations because I didn't want to cause issues.
A few weeks ago, she showed up at our house at 10:00 pm on a Sunday night with her 2 children (6 years;4 mos) and I hit my limit. I tried my best to be respectful in asking her to leave but I wasn't exactly patient or kind, and so she completely lost it, eventually storming out the door (almost an HOUR after arriving unannounced). Since then, she has spread aweful rumors about me to our circle of friends, going as far as telling my husband that I'm a bossy, lazy and terrible wife; and that since she considers him family she wants him to know that I am "disrespectful and rude".
When I tried to apologize for the miscommunication, she said some pretty nasty things to me, which now has me doubting myself. She's told me that she doesn't want me around her kids, but her husband still brings them over. I'm at a loss as to what I should do.
This woman has walked all over me for years and treats me like I'm the scum of the earth and as soon as I stand up for myself, I've validated it in her mind. I don't want to cause any further issues for them, but I also don't want to allow her the satisfaction of bringing me down. Our mutual friends have asked me what is going on, but I don't know what to tell them. I don't believe in gossip and avoid it whenever possible.

How can I keep the peace without losing my dignity? Is it even possible?
What do I tell our friends? How do I handle situations involving them and her?

NOTE: I've already talked with my husband about the things she said to him; He told me to ignore it because she's wrong. He was very sweet and listed everything I do for him, which is enough for me not to put any stock in her statement.

Was I wrong in asking her to leave that night? (Poll)