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Have just found out I am pregnant. Mixed feelings, as it is with someone who I truly love and have been calling the love of my life past 1,5 years. The relationship has not been always easy, we had a lot of dramas, challenges to work through, and things to forgive each other for. We have just gotten back together after a massive fight over nothing as usual, both have some things steaming from the past that keep interfering with us. We both have committed to working on things and have just signed up for a professional couple counselling. Both of us financially insecure, but fairly driven people and have goals to achieve to make the relationship work. WE have discussed kids, and reasonably decided to give it another 1-2 years for ourselves to settle down first. I have history of ectopic from 6 years ago, so have only one tube, had terminations before as ended up in wrong relationships in the past, and have always had limited contraception options since had a major surgery to remove a large fibroid. Took me a while to get my reproductive health and my head together to start even thinking of an opportunity to have a relationship and a family one day. This aside, my partner is completely thrown by the news, he is lost and terrified, is concerned about the money, and the fact we have just gotten back together and things started improving for us in a relationship. I understand and can relate to all of this. We both been careful during the sex last month, but it has happened. Previously, I had to take the morning after pill in a risky situations, and insisted on him using condoms, as any regular contraception would have increase a risk of fibroid growing back, which I do have one already, and it will only keep growing and will need to be managed through a surgery when it is large enough. The doctors have said I could manage to get through the pregnancy without complications. Partner insists we are not ready for this. Logically, I agree, but otherwise, I want this child.

My guy friend and I are incredibly intimate. We've been friends for three years but at the end of last term I felt like things changed. He would seek me out several times a day, leave stuff in my locker to have a reason to see me before and after school, find out my schedule so we could spend as much time together as possible, be in the same after school clubs with me, etc. He told me he really likes talking to me and spending time with me.

The catch is that he has a gf of 13 months (she goes to a diff school). Here's where I get confused. A month ago I went to a play at school bc he was working the soundboard. He invited me to sit in the balcony next to him, met me downstairs, walked up with me and then introduced me to GF, who was also doing sound! He never told me she was going to be there, but he claimed he did. Then he says, in front of her, that we are his two favorite people and asks me if I want to sit behind him and whisper sweet nothings in his ear! He had the nerve to complain about how he had to "put up with" her touching his knee while I was there.

We message a lot on FB and talk about everything: family stuff, school, sex, hobbies, and he vents to me about gf a lot. He tells me that he blows up at her, they fight a lot, he "loves her to death but can't shake her" and is bored with her. He found out she had been role playing online with another guy and they were in virtual love and she was having his pretend child. After that he broke up with her and made her cry but they made up. He told me he's only slept with her. He also said that girls at school tried to get him into a 3way but he wasn't attracted to them so he didn't. Guys... WHY is he telling me this stuff? Why, if I am just a friend, do I need to know where he keeps his condoms, what kind they are and where he keeps his lube? He also talks about eating p&@$y
more than seems normal and likes to play songs for me about it... why?