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Backstory:
I have a stepmother. She had two kids with my dad. She hates my mother. I can't say why because nobody likes to tell the truth (or at least they're all very good at making lies LOOK like truth so I can't figure out which story IS). I live with my grandparents because my parents both suck at parenting.

It's my birthday in five days. I'm turning nineteen and my grandparents are taking me to their holiday house in Apollo Bay. I don't know what the plans are, but that's what's happening this weekend. Mum has opted to cook dinner for me.

I called dad today because I missed a call three days ago, and asked him if my younger siblings could come to Apollo Bay as well.
At first he was optimistic, the only thing getting in the way of them coming would be my stepmother.
Then I mentioned Mum would be there.
And he told me it was not worth getting my hopes up.

My stepmother, would refuse my younger siblings to visit me for my birthday, simply because my mother would have the audacity to be present for her own daughters birthday. Dad didn't even CALL me on my eighteenth, which, is considered a pretty big deal, to be turning eighteen. But no, why call? Why would anyone phone up their daughter on their big day?

I don't get to see my younger siblings often, I've seen them twice this year. The last time I only got to see them for half an hour because my dad is apparently more willing to fight to have a fish tank in the loungeroom than he is for his daughter to stay one fucking night.

Anyway, my question is, is it immature for my stepmother to refuse my siblings to be able to see me, just because my mother might be there?

Or am I just getting upset over something I should have expected?

(If you want further examples of what my stepmothers maturity levels are, she got angry with me, just because I was the typical teenager who spoke to her friends about her parents. Why would she worry about anything I said, if she really thought she'd done nothing wrong?)

I was talking to a parent who was telling me about her sons 8th birthday party and how she was totally embarrassed that out of the 10 kids he'd invited, she'd been surprised that none of them were the same race as her kid. She thought it was some type of failure on her part that she hadn't been active enough or something in I guess trying to find him more friends of his own race.

I didn't really know what to say, but said, I think it's important that he's socializing and getting along well with the friends he does have. Is it important to have friends of ones own race?