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This guy and I met off a dating site and he was looking for a girlfriend and we do "click" - both our hearts race, he gets a boner, etc..and weboth feel relaxed in each others company. there's a mutal attraction right from day 1. We have been intimate and he enjoyed. he's 27 years old. Always asks questions about when I finish college, etc...to get to know me.

However he does have a medical problem and the doctors aren't able to find what's wrong with him - something with his head...plus he has a hectic work schedule as an accountant. His jb is difficult for him and he feels depressed.

He did however come forward and he met my mom - he wanted to, and he explained the situation. He also told my mom tht he cares about me and all thses other nice things about me.

Are these valid reasons?

While growing up, there are two lessons my parents seemed to care most about -

a) Doing things right and to the best of my ability

b) Doing the right things

a) It was very important to them for me to learn that I should always do right by others, and myself. I should always treat people right, regardless of how they treated me. The best solution is one that pleases everyone, including myself.

b) The other lesson that was very important to my parents was teaching me that if I do something, I do it the best I possibly can. It doesn't matter if my job is to clean toilets or dig ditches, or to be a lawyer, or a doctor, they said that I should always give it my all and take pride in the fact that I worked hard and honestly.

These are two very different lessons that sometimes collide, other times they clash.

Which is MORE important to you?

Which are you more worried about, in your daily life?

Why is that one more important to you?... because of your innate empathy, or your strong work ethic and pride?

An obvious answer may be, "I'm worried about doing the rights things right," but for the sake of the question, let's eliminate that from our options.

Thanks for answering :-)