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I made a dating profile a few years ago and used my best photos. Mildly filtered, but filtered nonetheless. I consider it a stupid decision because each person I met using that profile (two guys at different times) both ended up being jackasses. Before I get attacked, I did not look like a different person at all, I just put my best photos online. It wasn’t like a catfishing situation where we met in person and I was 50 pounds heavier and way uglier than my pics. I still looked like myself, just myself at my absolute best.

Those relationships failed. I decided to try again online, only this time, I put no filtered photos. I put front facing full body shots, selfies from bad angles with poor lighting, photos with no makeup and my hair in a ponytail, etc. while I got a significantly smaller number of responses, I actually met someone who is good for me, who isn’t judgmental, who doesn’t expect me to be perfect, and I am currently in the best relationship I’ve ever been in.

It could be a complete coincidence, it could all be timing, I’m aware of that, but it got me thinking. Does starting with your best photos yield better results, or is it best to show just how “ugly” you can be, so people know what to expect? I seem to have had more solid luck with the latter.