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So my boyfriend often says to me that her females friends want him but when i want him to not talk about his female friends like that, he calls me incesure and immature. By the way i am 20 and he is 35 and so it annoys him when guys around my age talk to me because of school/work. But I dont have any guy friend because he does not want me to have any. I only talk to guys when i have to. By the way he also often calls me and girls around my age immature and get angry when my bestfriend tells him that he should date a woman around his age then, instead of giirls who are 10+years younger than him. I am also done with him but i am afraid of breaking up with him since he often tells me that guys around my age are immature and only want sex but my (female) bestfriend wants me to get a younger boyfriend around my age and she also has a boyfriend around her age and both of them are together since middle school. I am also a little childish and hyperactive according to my boyfriend just because i want to do things that require a little energy such as going for walk , just going out to move my body , which annoys my boyfriend so much since he get exhausted very fast due to his age i guess. Maybe i am childish a little bit since i get happy for little things and laugh and get excited with my bestfriend for stupid things lol which also annoys my boyfriend since he does not understand why i laugh at stupid things.

My mom lately keeps questioning me all the time - where I go, whom I really see, etc... has even gone as far as threatening me to kick me out of the house and to “stay wherever it is that I stay “ when I’m not home...

she passionatley hates my ex boyfriend for no good reason... she thinks the guy abused me which isn’t true just because this other girl messaged her saying bad stuff about the guy which were not true at all... she also went as far as prohibiting me from leaving the house for 2 while months cuz she didn’t want me going to see him

so due to all this I’ve been seeing him in secret and have had no choice but to tell her that I have been seeing an old friend of mine whom she knows from years ago - but I’m really seeing my ex because me and him still love each other...

my mom was the cause of us breaking up - she was saying bad stuff to him that I’m slow and can’t take care of myself and that I can’t handle finances, etc... she was saying things to get him to change mind about me and she caused us to fight and break up at one point...

so what’s my moms problem and why should I do?

So my boyfriend has been my best friend for 5 years. In high school we dated for about 2 years. Then we broke up for 2 years. Now we've been dating for almost a year again. Best friends through it all, and friends with benefits for a while.

But I just found out I'm high school he cheated on me for a few months before breaking up with me. And he then basically dated the girl for that summer when we were broken up. They were just talking, hanging out, and kissing on the cheek. This girl became my friend once we broke up and was like the main one I leaned on and who supported me through the break up, me never knowing. I suspected he was with another girl but he would never tell me who. After all this time I just found out this month, and we talked through it and everything. I can forgive them, but I don't know if I can get over it and forget it. It sucks bc this relationship we've had now has been amazing, much better than when we were young and dumb, we've been really happy and healthy. I don't want to give that up for something that happened a long time ago, but I can't trust him now (i already have trust issues from childhood trauma!) And i don't want to be that toxic girlfriend who always goes through his phone, i hate that. But that's how I found out, because I suspected it still and it still hurt not knowing and he let me go through his phone so I found out. But since he lied to me for so long it just makes me sick to think it barely affects him now and he never would've told me. Also back then, they broke it off bc he never stopped loving me and realized he never liked her like that he'd just think of me, and he broke his heart talking to other guys. So I don't know. What would you do in my situation?