My boyfriend won’t let me have social media what should I do?

[itsmekusko]

So my boyfriend and I deleted our Snapchat and Instagram accounts. He’s not really interested in it but I liked being on it a lot. Here’s the thing. I have hurt him before because of social media so I understand that he doesn’t trust me using it. I respect it really. I was kind of addicted and didn’t really consider his feelings about it. But it’s been 2 years since that. I’ve changed a LOT since then, and I’ve asked him to let me get it back but he said that if I do he’s breaking up with me. And I think that that’s just too extreme. I’ve stopped talking to a lot of my friends because he didn’t want me to. I never go out with friends without him being there. How will I be able to make him trust me again if he can’t see it himself? I’m just tired of being told what to do and I’ve told him that but he doesn’t listen to me. He keeps saying that he’ll trust me again slowly but he never does because every time I ask him he says that he still has no trust for me. What should I do?

[SueShe]

So you have a social media addiction and this is exactly the same as any other addiction like smoking, drugs, drinking or sex, just to name a few.

If you start with social media, you will not be able to set your limits and everyday, it will be "just 2 more minutes" and the next day 2 more minutes and so on. At the end, you will end exactly where you were when you started.

If you did not do an addiction detox cure, then the likelihood that you will go back to your original pattern is very high.

Now, a person has no right to tell you what you are allowed to do or not. The only consequences you have to fear is that he will eventually leave you. You have to weigh out which or your addiction or your relation is more important to you.

I can understand that he does not trust you to be able to control your addiction and you must decide what is best for you.

[itsmekusko]

Thank you! I know I am not addicted to it anymore. For sure. But I will definitely think about your answer. And all the others too!😄❤️

[Anonymous]

From this it sounds like you have a really toxic relationship full of trust issues. In my opinion you have two options. (1) Sit down with your boyfriend and explain to him that you are a changed person and you are sorry for the past but he can't control all aspects of your life. You should be allowed to have social media if you want it and should definitely be allowed to hang out with your friends without him babysitting (you are your own person at the end of the day.) Discuss with one another your issues and try to get to an understanding where you can respect each others views. Option (2) is possibly to have a break from one another. This behaviour is not healthy and is likely to get worse before it gets better. Relationships should be built on trust and without if you are unable to trust each other, then there's a possibility you will both end up getting hurt in the end.

Good luck and hope it works out!!

[Miristheiss]

Well, I can only guess what is going on there.

The only issue I'd have with social media is if my girl is posting all these sexy, half naked, revealing pictures of herself on line and getting men to comment and talking to the men that are flocking to lust after her pics. Also, if she is having close, frequent interaction with men.

I'm guessing that is probably what you did.

Yeah, I would have just broken up and moved on to a more modest and less vain person.

Well, if you want a life with this person forgo the vain, meaningless social media world.

If you really social media that much than get your social media accounts going again.

[Jacobthedude]

I don't know what u did so I can't say he being to extreme or not. Although everyone has rights to there have deal brakers. As long as he not shaming u or breaking ur self esteem I think the social media a fair deal braker. So u got to decided which one is more worth it for u. U guys may be incompatible or there unfortunately just may be to. mich damage in the relationship already.

[msc545]

It sounds like you probably cheated on him and he is reacting to that. Quite honestly you are lucky that he is still with you at all and hasn't broken up with you. It takes a long time to regain someone's trust. You have to decide what's more important to you, your boyfriend, or social media.

[Hangry22]

If it was an addiction, there's a chance you will go back to the old ways even if you think you can control
It's time for you to decide what is more important to you-social media and your friends or your controlling boyfriend

[Samoht_Sirrom1]

Sounds dominating to me. Kick him to the curb find a guy who will love and respect you not control you. Besides I bet he's hiding an account or two and has been cheating on you using them and is afraid you'll find out if you rejoin.

[Kaneki05]

Pro tips
1 if guy is forcing you not to have social media's, he's abusive. (unless if it is Tic tok lol)
2 if guy is forcing you not to talk to friends, he's abusive.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

Major red flag when a partner is controlling like that

[ThatQuietLass]

ERM. Controlling major red flag.
If you hurt him, he should have been smart to get out the relationship.

[MzAsh]

You are a grown ass woman. Do what you want. And if he breaks up with you... good!
You don’t need a bossy boyfriend anyway. Stand your ground.

[WesBrewer]

He sounds like the controlling type, just let him break up with you, or you leave him first.

[dudeinohio]

Oh Oh... isolating you from your friends and the rest of the world. First steps an abuser takes. Then they make you totally dependent upon them.

[cmatt1633]

Tell him he is being ridiculous. I'd never do such a thing, put your foot down and say let me live my life lol

[rustymopp]

he's something of a control freak
don't think you'll ever get him to change (certainly not for the better anyways)
Leave him

[Not-karen]

Leave him a find a new boyfriend. He doesn’t own you. Sounds possessive to me. And that’s not good.

[jimmy2]

Well i got rid of those thing 8 years ago dont miss them

[bklynbadboy1]

What did you do to hurt him on social media

[YaBoiJacob]

LEAVE

[In_Trance]

Dump him