Why my boyfriend gotten sooooo jealous of a real old text messages from a guy that was before him?

[Jazzimeshele1234]

[HawkPerception]

All the girls saying to leave him have no logic. His feeling the way he does is completely natural. Why would you hold on to an ex's text messages unless you're trying to maintain some kind of connection? It's very simple to delete the messags and move on. Also, what did the text messages say? Depending on the context, there would be even more reason for your boyfriend to be jealous. Use your emotional intelligence a bit. You can't be fully in a relationship with someone if you're holding on to flames of the past; reminiscing about the past.

[RebelinSteel]

While I would like to say I don’t have old text messages, what’sapp messages n emails, I likely do. Shit happens. However it sounds like he’s really insecure.

its a simple I met girl x on 1March 2024, the text I am seeing is from 01 April 2023, therefore I don’t care.

I have ex’s in my WhatsApp groups, I still chat to them randomly, one is in the same sports group, it’s hard not to.

i have a fairly instant drop for anyone not able to handle it,

[Aubrey97]

I'd be fairly worried about this guy. Like, who expects you to have spent your entire life never talking to any other man before you met him?

Then if he found them while sneaking through your phone, you have a whole other set of issues to worry about!

[JacobJordan]

Why would one hold on to in her words "real old text messages" really easy to delete messages and why would one want to keep messages from an ex.

[molonski2]

Agreed , there will be many other issues coming , he's insecure.

[Aubrey97]

@JacobJordan I still have texts from 2017 in my phone. I've never felt it important to go out of my way to scroll through every text box in my phone history to decide if someone in 5 years might get jealous about them. Of course it's easy if you decide to, but who's worried about some insecure guy digging through years old texts? It's a scenario that I'd never have bothered thinking would even come up.

[Anonymous]

don't put things out for guys to get jealous about. keep your old pics and texts private and locked up. don't talk about old boyfriends, even when you're fighting. it's just not worth the hassle

[Flatmanlewis]

I think the natural reply is to ask this: Would you be okay with him having the exact same message from an ex saved on his phone?


What does it say?
How long ago was it received?
We’re their pictures attached?
What’s your (and/or your BFs) history with this guy?


It all matters.

[Jazzimeshele1234]

No because that was the past and it ain’t I still seeing them still communicates

[DrPepper12]

Cuz he's a immature selfish child? Tell him to grow the fuck up and snap back to reality that he ain't the first.

[Jazzimeshele1234]

Thank you !! 💯 like I forgot all about the messenges until he snoop in my inbox and bring it up

[DrPepper12]

NP if he's snooping he's a special kinda snowflake. For real.

[molonski2]

There will be big problems with this guy , he is highly possessive and you can just see what's going to happen , a very insecure individual , what does he expect you to be mother Theresa?

[JacobJordan]

Why do you still have text messages from a guy that was before him?

[Flatmanlewis]

This!!

[Jazzimeshele1234]

I don’t know …. I just don’t delete my messages. I forgot about those text so it ain’t like I exodus ndw boyfriend going in Facebook messenger looking for stuff

[Flatmanlewis]

You probably should accept that purging former ex’s existence from your present life is both normal & healthy.

[Billlewis]

There's bad jealousy and good jealousy. I'm usually only capable of experiencing the good variety, so if I were him, you'd probably want to make me jealous more often;)

[PeachyPie93]

No idea but I also don't keep old texts or pictures of guys from the past lol.

[Jazzimeshele1234]

This was actually an old messenger from Facebook not text from phone

[PeachyPie93]

In your messages or in a post? If it is in messages that is still a text lol

[Jazzimeshele1234]

I never deleted them….. never even deleted my mom text from years ago …. What’s the big deal?

[PeachyPie93]

Well was the text sexual? if they were he obviously would get pissed because he is seeing you flirt with an other guy. Sure it is old and before but I don't know why you wouldn't delete that kind of stuff.

[Metalbarbie]

Jealous how? What did he say? What was the context? But Right off the bat I would assume his insecure

[Rab1901]

Need more context. What did it say? How'd you respond? Who exactly is this guy?

[ravagesavage]

He's in his 30s and he's acting like that? Stupid bastard is all I gotta say

[genericname85]

why do you even have these messages still and why did he even see them?

[gorydetails]

Because if you're keeping messages you're still holding on to the previous guy.

[A_Nihilist]

He's likely worried that he's still around and will try to dig up old feelings and try to make you act on them.

[FuqUFggt]

You've been ridden more than Seatle sleep. It's depressing. He will leave you very soon

[In_Trance]

That's sus.

Dealbreaker... You should be single rn.

[DreamLife7]

You're 33 grow up. 2nd it's an excuse to leave u

[Jazzimeshele1234]

Why tf I have to grow up. He the one that need to grow up

[DreamLife7]

U know what you did grow up

[avery58]

He's a red flag. Sounds like a psycho

[Zenpanda]

Dude needs to set his priorities straight

[Anonymous]

Probably because you kept them. I don't date anyone without purging all traces of my ex.

[sheikalana]

He didn't like the content of the message.

[laly520]

why u still have em

[Jazzimeshele1234]

I didn’t realize I did

[laly520]

oh my
thats common to happen just make sure to explain urself n to also ask him if he is insecure maybe?