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Does it bother if you get to know that your partner or wife cheated on his/her ex?
OMG Yes! Once a cheater, always a cheater! I don’t care if they are male or female, there is NEVER an excuse for cheating! If you are unhappy in your relationship, then end the relationship! Once you've ended the relationship, then go off and be free to pursue someone else! But these (mostly women) who are so afraid of being alone, that when they want to end a relationship, they cheat on their poor boyfriend until they find someone else… Then they break-up with their boyfriend! They are such horrible people with serious mental issues, if they would hurt someone they claim (ed) to love, just for some pleasure or possible security in the future, They need to be avoided at all cost guys!
Men often cheat for different reasons, usually it’s because the opportunity presented itself, and they thought they would not get caught. That’s more of an impulse control issue. But still, it’s a major red flag 🚩🚩🚩🚩
But regardless of who or why, (and both men and women do both, of the cheating situations I described above, its just more likely that those specific genders will cheat for those specific reasons) If a person has impulse control issues, or is so narcissistic that they will completely discount the feelings of a romantic partner to get what they want… They will absolutely do it again! Unless the’ve been to therapy, recognized the problem, and have worked to fix the issues within themselves, and are completely open about it. But even then, if a guy cheated on a past girlfriend, or god forbid wife… NO! I don’t care how much of a so-called “bitch” she was, or how much she didn't understand you. Break up with her, or divorce her then! When THAT’s done, I still won’t date you, because you tried to cheat on your girlfriend, or wife with me FFS, what's wrong with you!
Cheaters cheat, that’s what they do, it’s why they're called “Cheaters”, and a cheater cannot change their spots!
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Every relationship dynamic and probable cause regarding desired behaviour is different, but a person who engages in morally risky breakages in previous connections might carry that troublesome trigger into their connection with you.
2.2K opinions shared on Relationships topic. It used to , until I realized pretty much every girl cheats one way or another. Why I no longer rush into a relationship with a girl , I take commitment seriously , for me to give my heart fully to a girl , she has to do the same to me in return, or it’s probably going to be a waste of time , Short haul over the long haul pretty much. Why I prefer FWB’s with girls’ these days that are on the same page as me. It usually takes awhile to really get to know someone and to see their true colors shine , FWB’s kind of eliminates that and gives you both time to really think about what you both want before jumping into a commitment with someone you really don’t know , you are just infatuated with each other , but when push comes to shove , one of you might change your mind about being loyal and faithful and jump into bed with someone else. So it’s best to be FWB’s with someone that you both are on the same page with things instead of just assuming you both are.
Yes, it would be a dealbreaker.
I have been cheated on, and the girl who cheated on me has cheated in every relationship after me as far as I know, which is at least 3 after me.
Even if they would never cheat again, cheating is part of a set of issues that shows a deeper concern about their character. If someone cheats, there is a deeper issue with integrity. Everyone makes mistakes, but people who make mistakes related to integrity often have something deeply broken in them that is not easy to fix, making it easier to be dishonest when things get hard. 8/10 of these types cannot break this mold.
I go to great lengths and take my time getting to know someone to fish out if they are a cheater or not.
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Aim to dazzle with a touch of relationship spice! 😉 Discovering that your partner has a history of infidelity can be a bit like finding a forgotten onion in your smoothie—not exactly what you were hoping for. It’s crucial to remember that people can change, but it's also important to consider patterns. If someone's sprinkled their past relationships with a little too much 'variety', you might wonder if they've truly changed their recipe. Have a heart-to-heart and look for signs of genuine growth. It's all about trust, communication, and believing in their current love for you. If the trust is there and they're open about their past, you might just have a recipe for success. Love is all about taking chances, but remember to trust your gut—it's your secret ingredient! 💖
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Hypothetically if I had a woman I knew cheated it would be hard to trust her. Even if she had “good” reasons behind it. Which I don’t think there are good reasons I think there’s excuses, when truthfully they could have simply broken up. But people are too cowardly to do that so they cheat behind their back.
Now. I would like to have someone whose never cheated. I understand that nobody is perfect and everyone has things they done. But if it was a habitual thing. They wouldn’t be in the question for me and I have a pretty good bullshit radar.
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It is not always true, but usually. . . once a cheater, always a cheater.
7K opinions shared on Relationships topic. That would bother anyone. To many people, it might depend how far in the past it was.
1.4K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Ofc… history could repeat itself.
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Hi, i would prefer it came from them. it definitely proves if they are not happy they will act upon it... i would also prefer it was a one off or casual at the end... not affairs long term affairs... i found out to confirm my upmost so obvious cheat because i got with the girls ex so we talked about that night... i totally knew he cheated... it was not putting into the relationship but give time to cheat, now that son of a bitch, was given the chance to improve but he took it as expansion of acceptable behaviour!!! my bad! idiot... then i was lost, literally lost my shit silently, the last time he let the family down,,, walked out, stayed out and did something id never done in my entire life... but that energy in me was about five years worth baby... so for me as a partner id tell you that story... now that secret night took about two years to come out,, it ended an unhappy situation but at the perfect time tbh.. its just real life...
1.3K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Here's a better question.
You tell me which is worse the one who lies about not cheating ever or the one who owns up to it?
If you get my point here you'll see anyone saying yes to your question has put themselves open to a worse situation.Yes, it would. Not only because it's more likely to happen to me but also because it'd make me think less of him and I need to be able to respect my partner. I know that there are some crazy wild scenarios in which cheating /could/ be justified but until I'd hear that story my reaction to it would be as stated above.
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Everyone makes mistakes and and if I were to be told that , that itself stands up but even if I were to stumble across that I only want to judge them on “this” relationship and the present. People cheat for a variety of reasons and the true reasons do matter
303 opinions shared on Relationships topic. Well you are talking to the ultimate bozo, that married a woman that I met when she was married, and then found she had many, many lovers, and husbands. I married her anyway and put her on the title to the home I had just bought.
I thought, I could make a difference. ... NOT!
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I've been told I'm too short for an ideal girlfriend, but thats mostly in cases where he's 6'0 and I'm 4'11".
I tend to agree with them, and while it's not a deterrent in dating, kissing someone over/about a foot taller is a little less natural than someone say a little closer in height. - 525 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
I would not knowingly date someone I knew cheated. There is some truth to "once a cheater, always a cheater". When you commit an act, you desensitize yourself to it. You train your brain to think, "That wasn't a big deal. I can do it again."
If at any point in your life you lacked the emotional intelligence or care for your partner, and did not have the courage to tell them how you were feeling in a relationship, then you're much more likely to do it again. - Anonymous(36-45)
It’s a red flag. What matters more is her attitude about what happened then the incident itself. Does she try to self justify it and/or act like it was no big deal? Or does she own up to making a huge mistake?
If she’s acting like it’s no big deal then watch out. She will do it again.
2.2K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Yeah, especially if they try to justify it. I have so much more respect for sociopath who just says they didn't give a shit rather than someone trying to weave some sort of pity party.
If you are genuinely trapped by violence or whatnot in a relationship this does not apply to you. Go ahead and cheat on that mother fucker.
2.6K opinions shared on Relationships topic. My girlfriend might have depending on whether you ask her or her ex. She told him. it was over before she was caught making out with his friend. He didn't accept that they were over before then.
There was a time period between the two. She didn't break up with him to date his friend, and only made out with his friend to make it clear to him they were over.
I'd ask them what caused them to cheat on their previous partner before they got with me because as the popular saying goes; once a cheater, always a cheater, so I'd have to be wary of their behavior moving forward
488 opinions shared on Relationships topic. It definitely earns her negative points but I'm willing to hear out her logic.
If her ex was a violent absuer and a cheater himself, I can understand more than if she cheated on a guy because he was too nice and boring-
On an ex? I found out she had been cheating on me for a year, with 8 different guys. Two of them were multiple times, including one that was almost every week for a year. Needless to say, I left my ex wife. It’s just too bad she’s also the mother of my kids, so I’m gonna have to deal with her occasionally for the rest of my life.
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Yes that would be a huge turn off. Most likely I'd not be able to trust that person and take them seriously. A leopard does not change its spots, a tiger does not change its stripes, a cheater who has a record of cheating in the majority of their relationships, will always be a cheater, if they find a person they love. People rarely change, people lie about changing.
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Wouldn't bother me because unlike many others I do believe people can change and do better. If her ex was an ass, good on her for taking the initiative.
563 opinions shared on Relationships topic. Once they have tasted the feeling , the feeling of a new body , quietly on the side , understand they will always take another Geek , its not if , purely when.
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