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Hi ladies, (and boys)

I'm a well dressed guy that have a kinda nice body and an "average" face (i'd say 7/10 for the face).

Usually, women think i'm well dressed, have a nice body and nice hair. I smell good and act with confidence (I am VERY confident).

I am NOT cocky, just confident!

I do hit on gorgeous women from time to time. I am NOT a player, but I got told one day that hitting on women or even talking to random guys builds up your confidence. It really helped me troughout the years to do so...

Thing is, I just talk to random strangers and never plan to hit on a women to then have a date with her. I recently started my career, bought a house, a car and etc so the only thing that's missing in my life is... A WOMEN!

So, let's say I spot a gorgeous women that looks kind and nice, and let's say i'm in a hurry and can't talk much to her, what if I approach her and just tell her: "hey, how are you doing? What's your name? I'm jean-michel. It might seem a little bit weird but I was looking at you from there and I find you very attractive. Would you be willing to go get a coffee with me someday?"

Would you give that guy your number? I mean, he might want you for sex, or really just be attracted to you and might want to know you better...

What would you think? I asked for a coffee, NOT a beer. A coffee for me means "knowing you better".

I know many guys that don't stand up and hit on gorgeous women like I do, and they look much better than me, but less confident. I don't give a shit about rejection, that's the thing...

Anyways, tell me what you think!!

So I bus to school everyday, I'm 18 and I'm in college. I'm in 2nd year. Tbh I've always lack confidence and I want to build up my confidence. Would it be weird if I see a girl on the bus and out of nowhere I start talking to her. Tbh I'm not really in a mood for dating nor pick up chicks I'm just tired of lacking confidence.

As far as relationships go, I know for a fact that there's something going to mess me up when I go for it.

Now, I'm pretty sure many people have thought about their first kiss, by which I mean hoping for one. Most people are probably going to make it all romantic, cue the romantic night or the cheesy double rainbow.

Yeah, no. Whenever I think about kissing anyone, I get this tightness in my chest, a lot of anxiety on the matter, and the urge to turn tail and sprint myself all the way down that hall. Don't get me started on going anywhere past kissing. It just gets worse. And worse. And... yeah. Any guesses? Worse! Correct!

Good for me. Yep. But let's think a bit, here. If I get this anxious just THINKING about it, what about if I actually get to that point? What if I actually turn tail and run? That's not going to go over well.

I thought about it a bit more, and I'm pretty sure it results to a lack of self confidence. I'm not going to lie when I say that if I'm not behind my laptop screen I'm pretty much going to go into the farthest corner and watch from afar. Fortunately, though the anonymity of the internet, I'm here, now, telling you about how I have issues.

What I'm curious about it whether or not other people have had this issue, known people with this issue, et cetera. What did you do to help them build up enough confidence? Or, even if you don't have any direct relation with the issue, what do you think could help build up confidence?

Now, just because I enjoy checking checkmarks, I'll just add a poll. I can, and therefore I will. It can probably get me some probably largely unreliable feedback.

Go on, go select your choice.