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My boyfriend wants me to leave him alone so he can do stuff alone more (I rarely see him at all during the week and we live together. I only see him if I stay up late during the work week or happen to get invited to join him with his family: when I spend the whole time in the corner alone.) I rarely complain when he doesn't tell me he won't be home for dinner or that he will be late coming home from work. I also don't stop him from spending all his free time in front of his laptop while he plays a videogame or whatever he chooses to do. He told me again today that he wants me to leave him alone more then maybe he'll want to spend time with me. So I told him that I was going to stop doing all the little things I do that let us see each other each day. Basically, I told him I was going to disappear. Will making him miss me work or am I wasting my time hoping?

If you research this you will see why I asked. Time is of the essence so to speak.
it's a form of breast cancer which moves rapidly
Anyhoot, would you tell a guy who you like and adore and tell him of the diagnosis.. or not?
And when I say not, i mean never meaning as long as you have to live, by the way, is this fair? I feel like we are close but, I don't know of it could hold it together around him face to face.
I've avoided seeing him for months, making up excuses... also he knows I'm also going through a divorce so, there's that. But for months we've only text.
I want to tell him, but I don't want his pitty.
I don't know why I am having a hard time with this in my head, I guess I don't want him to worry, I don't know what to do.

I feel like I should protect him.
And gradually disappear from his life.
He doesn't understand. I've tried pushing him away, I stop texting, it's been one emotional Rollercoaster ride for 5 years, but last year is when my life changed, so do you blame me for wanting to not say anything?

I was discussing my dating life with my older cousin again... And I told him recently I had added this guy on Facebook and asked him out myself. We had matched on tinder and talked a little, but then he disappeared and it was bizarre since he was just stating he'd like to talk somewhere else. I'm confident in my looks and in my inner self, I believe I am a good catch, and I thought why not give it a shot, otherwise we'd most likely never talk again, especially since I deleted tinder afterwards. I added the dude and he accepted, I asked him out and he replied he definitely would like to! When I had told my cousin this he really ripped me apart, saying I was so desperate, that the guy thinks "oh shit now this girl is so into me" and he is NOT thinking "oh cool this super pretty nice girl likes me, and she asked me out awesome" or whatever, my cousin's words. He said I will not be successful in dating EVER if I continue to "pursue" the man and take initiative. I rarely ever do but I told him this situation was different. The guy I'm after really has NO girl action on his fb, he is a super quite kinda nerdy dude... I honestly just wanted to get things moving and show interest... But apparently showing interest is a "no-no"? Why is it bad for a girl to show interest in a guy if she is interested? How is that coming off desperate or needy? It's not as if I am blowing him up, texting him 24:7, or messaging him needy messages. I'm honestly just wanting and trying to meet the guy.