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When I say “dangerous” I don’t mean a guy making some asshole remark like “fuck you cunt” or something else when a woman (politely) turns him down. Him showing some frustrated anger is NOT getting “dangerous”. It might not be appropriate and even creepy. But there is a fine line between him being sour grapes vs. being a legitimate threat.

I’m talking about a guy seriously getting physically violent, legitimately threatening violence or aggressively stalking afterwards. I’m talking in person stalking too (not stalking on social media). Like showing up at the woman’s house or at her work.

I do believe men like this exist. I make zero excuses for them and it’s twisted/wrong. But I also believe they are very rare (less than 1 out of a 1000 men). Instead women get paranoid because of ANECDOTAL evidence. They read a story online or hear of friend of a friend having a legitimately scary incident. Then they get this bogey man complex about men in general.

I say this because I think this paranoia has made women progressively worse in the last few years at tactfully rejecting men. They rather play games, ghost and of course friend zone and rationalize it to themselves out of a misplaced paranoia. When in reality all they have to say is “hey thanks for approaching me but I have to be honest I’m not interested”’. While no guy likes hearing that the reality is 99% of men out there will accept that and move on.

But why is it so hard for women to be (politely) honest? I think the so called rise of the “incel” community is partially attributed to men being frustrated about not getting direct communication from women. The game playing does more psychological damage then they realize.

Most men can take rejection especially in our mid 20s or older. We are used to sticking our necks out and taking the risk. It unfortunately comes with the territory but it is how it is.

There are two guys I know who are pretty good friends. The question is end up the most desirable and successful in life? So who is going to be doing better in 25 years if we can check on them again. I will describe them to you and you decide who will fare better in life. And make your choice and explain your belief.

Guy 1:
Guy 1 Is 25 years old and is recent college graduate. He met guy 2 while working a blue collar job to sustain himself and worked through college and graduated college with no debt, owns his own car lives in his own apartment. He now works at a decent tech company. He is a hard working person, learns quickly and moves with purpose and vision. He's a thin, fit guy who is very dedicated to fitness and loves to go to the gym. He's very young looking for his age, couldn't grow facial hair on a bet. He likes to read and likes to learn new things. He's got lots of interests and he's strong and smart. He has dated, and had a couple of relationships, moderate dating and he can fairly easily get a date, in fact women ask him out some times.

Guy 2:
Guy 2 is 24. He still works at the blue collar job, but he's trying to get a better job in the industry and he's about to get it. He, however, has not been to college in fact he did not even graduate high school. He dropped out because he got his girlfriend pregnant at 16 had had a baby with her. He has been already married and divorced. He lives paycheck to paycheck, barely sustaining himself in the trailer that he rents with his child. Though not educated guy 2 is good with numbers and is just good at math generally. He too, is a hard working guy and he tries to do the right things, but he has a child and it's harder. He's a good looking thin guy that doesn't care for the gym he gets enough exercise at work, but he's fairly confident. He doesn't date much, but he has had a fair share of brief hookups.