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I am in love with one man that I have had an off and on again relationship. We have never been a couple but when we do go out he makes sure everyone knows I am "his" girl. We have so much fun together and we both admit that. He just can't commit. Each time we get too close he pulls away. We stop talking and then the process starts over again. It is driving me crazy and after the last time I told him it is too hard on my heart and that I will start dating other people again. He holds my heart but hasn't really done anything to keep someone else from steeling it away. Ok then there is this man I recently met. He is so very sweet. Calls me his princess. And does just about everything to make me happy. Ideally he is everything I hope to have in a relationship with someone. He is helpful around the house. Says just about everything perfect for me. The only thing is I don't have strong feelings for him. He is winning me over with kindness and gifts and my vulnerable position of being broke. He would provide for everything. But there are little things that drive me up the wall a little. He is very clingy. Wants to kiss all the time. I am not a huge kisser. He is more business like. An engineer making big bucks and the other man (the man I have very strong feelings for that won't commit) is the poor construction type. My heart wants the poor construction type but half of me feels like he will just end up hurting me time and time again with all the pulling away he does. The business like man I know will never hurt me and if he did he would do anything to make it up but I don't have feelings for him. Not yet anyways. Here is the kicker. Just as I started seeing this other man (the engineer) the man that I have feelings for comes back into the picture. I need to make a decision quick. the funny thing is now I keep seeing the poor construction workers name everywhere. His name isn't popular either.

Ok, now I have to admit I can be smothering sometimes, but it doesn't mean I'm completely oblivious. I like to push people's buttons and they're generally accepting. Some people like me, some people don't. And then there's this guy.

On a good day, he's the sweetest thing ever. He will patiently survive my antics, say I'm funny, smart, creative, all the good stuff. He will even say that he never minds my company whenever I'm worried I'm being too much at the moment.
Enter "the total ass days", when I have to walk on eggshells lest I annoy the living fuck out of him. He will tell me off for SAYING HELLO TO HIM MORE THAN ONCE IN A DAY (sorry, that just needed emphasis). He will tell me I'm completely tactless, annoying, clingy and an airhead. He will tell me that I always bother him when he's busy (the fact he's forgetting is that it's HIM who drags out the conversation and I can evacuate myself on short notice if he just politely asks me to; he says he wouldn't inform me that he's busy when he is because that would render him an asshole... as if snapping and calling me a tactless, clingy nuisance every now and then was any better). Hell, once we were just walking through the hallway and he stopped by the restroom, I waited for him to get out and when he saw me waiting, he commented on how "stalkerish" I am (he never asked me to leave him behind, just for the record). Don't even get me started on physical contact! Whenever I tap him on the arm or, god forbid, extend my arms as an invitation to a hug, he will act as though" I'm trying to ravish him (could his being 2 inches shorter than me be part of the reason?). I don't phone him a lot (unless a homework question once every two weeks or so that HE drags out to be a 10-minute-long conversation is a lot), I almost never text him unless I need to and I'm not glued to him for an entire day at school (there are days when I don't talk to him at all, as well as ones when I initiate a small talk once or twice).

I met this guy online, we reside in 2 different but neighbour countries and we haven't met. We started getting romantically involved with eachother he told me he loved me and we would have Skype sex often I'm the first girl he has ever shown himself completely naked to. We talked EVERY day on Skype and exchanged I love you's OFTEN, but due to insecurities I jokingly flirted with other guys to see if he was really serious, and he didn't seem to care much. He acted as happy as usual to me but suddenly he ignored me for a whole week.
I then deleted him from all social medias as I felt he wasn't invested, I told him this and from there we stopped contact.

We then got in contact again, and he told me he had been stalking me everyday and was really devastated he couldn't aplogize for ignoring me, but his jealousy made it hard for him to know how he should react and he WAS really jealous and stuff. We were skyping and suddenly he started to cry, and I asked him what it was, he kept apologizing and finally showed me he had cut himself and told me he did it because he thought I would never speak to him again and that I didn't care. He promised he would never do it again.

Things were evolving, it seemed great but again even though he didn't ignore me, he never seemed to initiate, it was ALWAYS me. So I told him I thought history repeated itself and we're unappreciative of eachother, and instead of asking into it or fighting for us he would just say "I see where you come from. I do however appreciate you a lot... but respect your decision a whole lot. Can we at least be friends?" I tried that for a week, and he would be even more distant now only replying hours later if I did write him, so I deleted him again from everything because I could not bear to be just his friend (and I told him this before I deleted him, as well as apologized for being clingy)

He could still contact me through other sites if he want to, but he doesn't. What is this guy feeling/thinking?