Search Results: is it love or infatuation

I want to take dating seriously. I don't want to do something to just realise it was all a mistake midway down the line and decide to end things. I made that mistake with one of my best friends when we went out for 1 year before I realised we weren't that good a fit and we were just having fun but not really in love.

So now this girl, I think there's some mutual attraction, but I don't know if it's love or just something else?
1. She's not the attractive type, but when i'm with her I think she's pretty. Maybe it's infatuation.
2. I get aroused when we're in physical contact, and I think of her in a sexual way too. So that's lust there.
3. I like going out with her, but I also enjoy going out with anyone else of my friends, so I don't know if I'm just lonely.
4. I get flushed with excitement when I ask her out, and when I'm planning what to do, but I might just be nervous, stressed or excited?
5. I really enjoy her company, but maybe I just like having fun together?

I have a lot of doubts. And I wonder if what we're feeling is not really true attraction, but just... having fun and doing unfamiliar things together? Is this not love? Is this part of love? Or is this something that leads to love?

Said emotionally detached girl has not fallen for any guy before. Maybe she had a crush or two, but that was it.

She treats dating as a serious issue of commitment and trust, so she will refuse to date anyone until she is 100% certain that guy is the one she will marry. Hence no matter how hard a guy tries, she will never admit to liking him, or allow herself to like him.

She is INTP in the Myers-Briggs test, so she's emotionally detached. She doesn't appreciate romantic gestures. She doesn't express concern or interest for anyone or anything unless it's a topic that she really loves. So she seems distant or uncaring to others. Even her gal friends she will ignore or try to change topic if it's a boring topic.

And being INTP, she can be very blunt with her words. She is very direct in telling others about her insensitivity, so she can easily filter out people who wouldn't get along with her.

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Given all these emotional issues, do you think such a girl has any chance of "discovering romanticism"? Like... being able to feel true passion for a guy? Being able to soften her words, show concern for her guy?

Or would she still be the same girl as she is?

I'm going out with said girl, and I have my doubts. Right now my infatuation with her is overriding some of my doubts, but I fear once the honeymoon period wears off, or maybe even post-marriage, I might find her unbearable.