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The other day my boyfriend of 10 months and I were talking and he happened to bring up the question "If my daughter wanted to live with us one day, what are your thoughts on that"?

So currently we don't live together. He has 2 kids from a previous relationship, one who is 5 and the other who is 6. I have my daughter with me from a previous relationship and she is 6. Our current arrangement is that he has his kids every second weekend and on those particular weekends that he has them we alternate time spent at each others homes just to be fair, so one time he and the kids will come over to my place for the weekend and the next time he has them, my daughter and I go over to his house for the weekend. His kids are a little more full on than my daughter and so it can seem like a bloody circus at times, just different upbringings and slightly different parenting styles unfortunately.

Our history to date is that we did end up rushing things and he actually moved in to my place about 4 months into our relationship but he had been staying the majority of the time at mine about a month prior to that. The kids started spending weekends at my house pretty much a month into our relationship. Right from the get go the kids have always stayed at mine. Then at the 8 month mark I found out my boyfriend had a serious issue which he had been hiding from me and which had impacted our relationship somewhat so I asked him to leave and we broke up.

Considering all this plus my update to this poll, if she were one day to move in with us, would I be financially accountable for her. Like is it reasonable to expect that I financially support her with my boyfriend eg. school fees, excursions, hobbies and any other day to day living expenses. I'm just wondering if that is a reasonable expectation from my boyfriend considering she has a mother and father who should be providing for her, why would I be expected to do that? It doesn't seem right.

So for a month now I've been sort of dating this guy. He's everything I've ever wanted in a boyfriend and eventual husband but he apparently isn't ready for a relationship or "the next step" (until he "gets his shit together") Which is fine, its only been a month & I'm not the one to rush anyone into anything they're not ready for. However, he spends literally every single day with me at my place. He won't even go to his friends house unless I go. Any of his friends. Like if I tell him to go ahead & go to his friends cause I'm just gonna hangout at home or something, he will cancel his plans with his friends & stay home with me. He even ignored one guy for like a week until we went over last night. So what does this mean? My friends tell me he loves me but he's scared to say it yet because he was in a 7 year relationship that ended like 6 months before we got together. And I was VERY adamant about not being his rebound which he then double assured me I wasn't. He has went out on dates before me but still I'm so confused & wondering how long I'm going to have to wait for him to make us official. We've met each others families on the holidays & everything. Everyone assumes we are boyfriend & girlfriend but I guess we aren't. He's pretty clingy & he told me he was afraid I'd break up with him if he did or said something dumb (I'm guessing this has happened before) Any advice is welcomed & I'm thinking we need some time apart. Please help me thank you!