One day I told her about my first weed experience. (I didn't tell her it was a night I had sex with another woman during the span of talking to her online. Lol)
Anyway. She said she used to be religious via influence in her first marriage but now is open minded about not judging people. I messaged her again and she ghosted.
She ghosted for like 3 months after we had been talking online a month.
I dont like to rush into dates. I had one chic stalk me after sleeping with her etc. Im happy single but open to relationships. I can get sex outside a relationship if I want.
So 3 months later she messages me asking if I want to meet for drinks. The message started with a short apology for not replying. There was no explanation. I sort of casually said it was cool. I didn't ask an explanation.
She gave me her phone number. Should I go on the date or be suspicious?
So... naturally we started a casual dating relationship.
By the 2nd date we were having sex for the first time. Last night we had sex a 3rd time after going to a punk rock concert and a bar afterwards to talk. Now she wants to meet me for a 4th date tomorrow over coffee & has "kind of an important question".
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No, you will only open yourself up to more heartbreak from her. She seems like more trouble than it’s worth, especially considering she has ghosted you longer than you’ve known her.2
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I wouldn't. 2 reasons come to mind without even thinking about it.
1) never explained the ghosting - I'd have to know this so she'd better start talking. I find ghosting extremely selfish, disrespectful and immature, so that says a lot about her.
2) You obviously weren't her first choice. My guess is she liked someone else better and they are gone now, so she's come back to you. The next "someone better" comes, is she going to ghost you again?1
Of course not!! The worst kinds of person is one who doesn’t apologize or give a logical explanation for there actions but continues on as if nothing ever occurred...
But I suppose curiosity will get the better of you an you will go... so I’ll also say there’s probably no harm in going, but she is probably a certain kind of B letter word savvy?1