We dated three times, we planned a fourth date, but it seems like she's ghosting me. any advice?

[Anonymous]

I know the definition of a date varies from one person to another, we had coffee on Thursday, on Friday we went out for dinner, on Sunday she called me to go out for coffee again. We had a quick chat on Tuesday, when we planned another date at the end of the next week and she instantly said yes, but now she seems like she's ghosting me. I texted her on Wednesday, she replied after four hours, not answering my question, just saying she was busy. I tried continuing the conversation, the messages haven't been read since yesterday. Today it's Thursday, one week after our first "date". What should I do? Should I wait until Friday to check if our plans are still up? Should I stop texting or calling? Did I appear as needy and desperate? Did things move too fast? I am quite confused about our weekend plans now...

[coachTanthony]

You should start talking to other women. If she comes around later then talk to her. Don't get all heartbroken over this one chick you only had 3 dates which usually is the right amount for someone to decide whether or not they are interested. We can't make people communicate with empathy. Some people just ghost because they have poor communication skills.

[es20490446e]

My guess is they are dating too much to be the start, so the girl haven't had time to figure things up.

[coachTanthony]

@es20490446e Your guess is as good as mine with the info we have.

[Juneberry91]

What I understand is you had 2 date right after the other. First was a light coffee date and the other. A more intimate dinner.

A little chitchat then she is quite and not communicating your plans for the weekend…

We don’t know her reasons but it’s best to not think she is doing this to you on purpose.
what I have alway appreciate is a man’s honesty. You like her & want to make plans with her to further get to know her.

I would give space then go in with your truth-

txt- “ (her name) I find you charming & interested to getting to know you better.”

To the point & simple. If she response the resume plans, if she response & her failed communication becomes a thing, forget her you want a woman that does not leave you in the dark, if she doesn't respond at all it means she is not interested and just doesn't want to communicate that to hurt your feelings.

Good luck Peter, I have been here my self before and it’s not fun ❤️

[Asker]

Yeah, I planned a much more intimate date, and she said sure, but in the weekend, not now. We had two dates right after the other because that time she initiated. At the end of our coffee date she said, we should go have dinner tomorrow. I was quite surprised, but if course I accepted. Two days after dinner, she spontaneously called and asked if I am at work (I own a coffee shop). I said yes, she replied "okay, I'm coming over for a coffee now". She told me her girl friends invited her to go out, but she turned them down because she wanted to see me.

[Asker]

by the way, she just replied with an emoji, 20 hours later 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ I hate these people playing games, I am an honest straightforward mature man, I am clear in my intentions and I can accept lack of interest. But I hate this childish games

[Juneberry91]

I’m happy to here you are responsible & value your self Peter.
She sound like she’s all over the place… Initiating back to back & claiming she has canceled being with her friends just to see you.
But I’m gonna give her the benefit of the doubt it’s only the beginning of things where affectation makes some people go to warp speed in hopes to confirm you like the at the start or to stay fresh in your mind so you are not selecting someone else.

I don’t know her but But based off of the initiation of fact backdates with no breathable space she is Probably working on anxious energy.
There’s a misconception or women believe if you tell a man you gave up time with your friends to see them ask him special. That’s the aim… I thought that was super cool when I was a teenager/early 20s… But now that I am in my early 30s I appreciate a man that Respects his plans, his time with his love ones and don’t cast them away for a maybe stranger like me. Only time couldn’t really tell but you’re a business owner and that time also needs to be respected.

Everybody wants to love but what you need is mature love. That’s a woman that is going to respect your space , family /friend time & your business.

Is she showing you that she’s giving up time with her friends to just see you -eventually done online she might expect you to show the same action from you in order to validate that you like her.

No you can very much be attractive in like a woman but still honor your plans.

[Kori1236]

People have lives. You can continue to message her and ask if she’d like to plan another date, or leave it at that and see if she reaches out to you. It sucks yes but again people have lives and given she said she was busy she clearly had a reason

[es20490446e]

She's interested, but you are dating way too much to be the beginning. So it is kind of turning into a chore for her.

The first dates shall be once a week, so she has a little bit of time and space to figure out what she feels about it.

If your pace is too much too soon, women back up. Match her interest, or even go just a little below hers.

[Guy13]

Give her space. Need to know the truth of her character

[Guy13]

You likely have a girl who is in mid-relationship with a guy and is a little unhappy. He is not meeting her emotional needs and she is seeking attention elsewhere. She fills up on people like you and goes home and F-s the hell out of her man. She got the emotional fix from somewhere but her heart is with another Dick. You are not the Dick on her mind.

[Anonymous]

i know you're confused about your weekend plans, but if a girl actually cared and wanted to see you even if she was busy at the moment, she wouldn't forget...

[Exterminatore]

Just continue with business as usual. About 3 hours before your scheduled date Friday you will get a message about her not being able to make it because she has to feed her goldfish or some lame crap.

[TallAnon]

If it feels like she's ghosting you, she definitely isn't putting in enough effort; Go next, you'll find another date.

[jasmmiiiin2]

She is being rude. Dont text and call her again. If she was really into you, she wouldn't ghost you. Believe her actions.

[Anonymous]

Ya same, I guess 3rd time is the charm and after that unless he’s claiming you as a girlfriend, it won’t ever go anywhere.

[Anonymous]

Bro chase new toy to play..
Stop chasing her she busy with someone else

[boggboss]

Give her space if she dont contact u the dates off

[serious_miss419]

Sounds like she feels smothered. Slow down.

[es20490446e]

This.

[In_Trance]

WDYM it seems?

Did she ghost or not?

[Blacksnake285]

She ain’t feeling ya