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Just wondering because it seems like girls just automatically friendzone me and/or assume that I'm gay solely because I'm under 5'10" (172cm), and I'm neither obese nor jacked up from steroid abuse- weigh in at roughly 150lbs. I'm not weak or unfit by any stretch of the imagination, and not scrawny either; still have well-defined, chiselled abs, pecs, arms, shoulders, thighs, and all the rest, and do the equivalent of a half marathon every week. And I'm not ugly either.

So why does it seem like even the ugliest, fattest guys are always more attractive in the eyes of women than a guy who's genuinely fit, athletic and fairly handsome? Why do these girls lust long and hard over 'dad-bods' like these:

While making out that any guys with physiques like this are 'scrawny', 'puny', 'weak' and/or 'look gay'?

And why do girls only seem to ever lust after fat men?

Be honest, because I know that now that I'm recovering from an eating disorder I'm gonna become much less attractive and I've been fat before (hopefully I never get nearly that bad again but with the way I eat I'm scared) my mom always says "personality matters a lot" but my close female friends always talk about dudes bodies whether it be guys with their abs and such or guys who "have such a great personality but need to lose some weight" or "have potential if they fixed their acne" or "are so sweet but so ugly" and I myself have a hard time approaching girls as it is but once I become ugly it'll be even harder and I'm afraid of being alone forever because although I've messed around some now while I was attractive now that I'm recovering and ugly I'll never have that again and probably never find love in the future