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I know this question has been asked many times, but I want current opinions and fresh perspective from some of the younger users on here too.

in my opinion, marriage has become a business, a way to cheat the system, and an excuse to commit a battery of immoral acts. Now before I go further, let me first state that although I am a modern Pagan, I still believe that a married couple should honor certain morals and values.

I do not believe sex out of wedlock is wrong IF you are both of consenting age. I believe the term cheating is only applicable when your are hiding it from your partner and/or do not have their permission to sleep with a certain individual.

In most cases, I do not agree with getting married simply because you're pregnant. You don't have to be married to be in the child's life, or to help cover the cost of care. It's just not worth risking raising the child in a negative environment if the couple is a bad match.

I believe anyone who wants to marry should be allowed.

But back to my main points. Marriage is used every day to cheat the government out of money, spouses will use the M card to gain access to the SO's private information, and there are far too many people out their cheating simply because they are afraid of a messy divorce battle. Anit-Gay couples will use their marriage to justify hate crimes and violence against homosexuals, and there are far too many children suffering with unfit parents, simply because the state sees that two parents live in the home.

A ring will NOT guarantee loyalty or or fidelity. A piece of paper will not ensure that your spouse will take care of you financially, but many still assume this.

I'm a modern woman, and I feel that in this age, both parties should be capable of supporting themselves in the event of job loss or separation. With that notion, I really don't see much point in a ring, beyond employee benefits that extend to the spouse.

How do you guys feel?

For those of you who still believe in marriage as an institution - more so the "till death do we part" part of it and the being faithful, I have a question.

What about if your partner cheated?

I know, most people would say, "Well, my spouse would never cheat" but you know what? It happens.

So I'm curious. This is a question I was asking myself today and I find myself struggling.

I always have the thought that I want my first marriage to be my only marriage and I want it to last well into old age until we're literally parted by death. But then I got to thinking that I simply could NOT stay with him if he cheated. No way no how.

So you can see how the two thought processes are conflicting.

It's like the vows should be, "I take you to be my lawfully wedded husband in good times and bad, in sickness and in health, for better or for worse, till death do us part unless you cheat on me 'cause then this promise is null and void."

The above "vow" is not at all a good one. So it's a good think I'm no where near getting married lol.

Interested to hear your thoughts about this.

You think your spouce is cheating, and you know they won't come clean. How would you investigate this situation. Would you wanna know, and if you did, at what extent,.knowing this would end the relationship. And you are on a mission to get solid evidence so that you can confront him/her. What would you do to find the truth...