Search Results: he is scared from past relationships

Why dating for the sake of dating is a bad idea!

I know so many people who date just to date. It doesn't have to be someone you're really into. It doesn't have to be someone you love. There doesn't need to be chemistry nor attraction. That person just happens to be...

aamina_m

Xper 6 Age: 42

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Guy's Behavior

Does my guy friend like me?

I have known my guy friend for about 4 months. The first few months we would text each other and he would call me every day when he was free. And for the past one month he would only text me once a week or maybe not....

Geetz

Xper 4 Age: 37

Other

I don't want to fix my boyfriend, but he wants me to fix him. Can I get some advice?

Okay so what I'm about to say is pretty personal, and dare I say triggering to some people (Mentions of self harm, sorry for the warrining but it's just to be polite), so read with caution. I was on the bus with my...

KayleenAnne

Xper 4 Age: 30

Relationships

Why does he treat me like this? How do I express how I feel without worrying about him leaving me?

My boyfriend and I have only been dating a short time about 2 months. For the past couple of weeks we have been getting in fights a lot. A lot of it has been my fault because he doesn't trust me. I lied to him on the...

Anonymous

(25-29)

Guy's Behavior

How to make a man fall in love when you're so jaded?

I’m deeply infatuated with my neighbor. His door is about 20ft away from my balcony, and I can’t walk to my kitchen without seeing his beautiful abs. His roommate (also a model) is conceited and that’s never a turn-on, so...

kittyonmyfoot

Xper 4 Age: 32

Society & Politics

The Slut/Stud Double Standard

Introduction: In this myTake I will give my perspective on the slut/stud double standard, what the word slut really means, whether guys are judged negatively for their sex count, female on female shaming, and if/why guys...

Bandit74

Master Age: 33

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Guy's Behavior

Guys, Why do guys say this if they don't mean it?

Anonymous

(30-35)

When I start someone I make sure to ask him if he wants a relationship or not. Sometimes asking if he is ready to settle down or not. (I don't want just a hook up) Well after texting a

When I start someone I make sure to ask him if he wants a relationship or not. Sometimes asking if he is ready to settle down or not. (I don't want just a hook up) Well after texting a guy for 3 weeks (saying he wanted a relationship an almost proposed to his ex before they broke up) he decided he just wasn't ready for a relationship just yet and asked if we could be friends. He apologized about the whole thing and after a week of not talking he's my best friend now, but in the back of my mind I do wish we could go out again even though I feel like that will probably never happen.

I met this other guy at school and he told me that he wanted a relationship and wanted to settle down, even saying that a girlfriend should be someone you plan on marrying and that if I was just looking for sex I should just stop talking to him. we had our ups an downs after dating for a month an still said he barely knew me. something happened and he decided he wasn't ready for a relationship yet, but also didn't want to be friends b/c he didn't want me to forget my feelings for him. He said that after he cleared everything up in his life he would come back to me and that he misses me even if he starts seeing other girls in the meantime (which I didn't like hearing. I don't get why he could date them but not date me if he's not ready for anything?) I don't know whether to just forget this guy completely (hate him for all of this rollercoaster stuff and ignore him or keep my feelings in case he does comes back one day) either way I don't plan on staying single and "waiting" for someone who won't even call me thier girlfriend but it's still confusing. I'm scared he just wants to keep me around as an option but I think that's just the fear from my past haunting me.

So the question after a little bit of background. Why do guys say that they are ready for a relationship even if they aren't? Did I just get unlucky to find 2 guys in a row that tried but found they couldn't handle something serious yet?

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Relationships

Warning Signs of Abuse and Control; Get Out Before It's Too Late and Beware!

I just came out of a very unhealthy relationship. I suspected that he was abusive, and I left. While it never got physical, I got suspicious. Since I am a woman, I will be writing from a female perspective. I figured I...

Anonymous

(30-35)

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Guy's Behavior

Friends with Benefits but becoming confusing?

I am friends with benefits with my friend of about 3 years, we are also coworkers (messy, I know) we have been in this sort of friends with benefits thing for about 5 months now. It was all going good, but I am getting...

Anonymous

(30-35)

Dating

Advice for when you really like two people at the same time?

I started talking to Guy 1 about a week ago on a dating site. He was in my recent visitors, and I noticed something in a photo of his that made it appear that we had a common interest (that not too many others share), so...

Anonymous

(30-35)

Relationships

I have constant fear of losing my boyfriend, does anyone else have this issue in relationships?

So, I've had 4 other boyfriends in the past, plus some unofficial ones. None of them lasted too long term (most were only a few months) and almost all of them came on strong and then pulled away. Very hot and cold. They...

Anonymous

(30-35)

Girl's Behavior

What does she want?

My girlfriend and I were together for about 3 years. i had told her I needed space for a little while. We broke it off for about a month and a half. We started talking again and I had told her I was ready to work things...

Anonymous

(30-35)

Guy's Behavior

I'm 30, he's 35, Is he scared?

Met at a party. I didn't pay attention to his interest because he was drunk. The next day I get a message from a mutual friend that this guy wanted to know if I would like to watch movies with him. I ignored it, got...

Anonymous

(36-45)

Girl's Behavior

My heart feels completely lost?

After almost getting killed, five of my closest friends become drug addicts, and being in an abusive traumatic relationship for years where he was also an addict, I've become used to unhappiness and worry. I'm insecure,...

helpha

Yoda Age: 31

Relationships

Guys, Men and the Future? What to do?

My boyfriend of around a year and a half have been living together for the past five months. We agreed to have a talk in October, because we had planned to make a move to a new city in Janurary and both agreed we should...

crazybeautiful7877

Xper 2 Age: 38

Relationships

How do I make up with my boyfriend?

My long distance boyfriend and I fought yesterday. We have been together for a year and a half, and he just moved last month. We also just made plans to meet in two months. We were doing so well. I mean literally just...

Anonymous

(36-45)

Guy's Behavior

Guys, He said he needs time to get used to being in a relationship again?

I've been talking to this guy for almost a week now and I feel like we really hit it off and after sitting around alone with him for a few hours I feel like he almost kissed me but didn't cuz someone came and ruined the...

Anonymous

(30-35)

Guy's Behavior

Why does he still call me a friend?

We've been together a year and a half and we spend almost every day together, there's a few days here and there it doesn't work out because we work different shifts. We do all sorts of things together - go to concerts,...

Anonymous

(36-45)

Dating

5 Reasons Why Women Should Ask Men Out More Often

5 reasons why women should ask men out more often and an explanation of the current situation when asking someone on a date In the past it has been basically required of men to ask women out, and even into this day and...

Anonymous

(30-35)

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Dating

Should I ask him what's up, or just silently move on?

I've been talking to this guy online for about a year. We talk every day, though the conversation always stays pretty light- we don't get into very deep "get to know you stuff" because he feels scared of opening up and...

Anonymous

(30-35)