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My GF and I just broke up about an hour ago. And I could really use your feedback in bouncing back from this. I am honestly questioning my own sanity right now. Let me explain briefly here and let's give feedback based on my assumptions being right please.

This girl and I are damn near perfect for each other. I know it, and I she knows it. (Again let's assume that I am just not a giant fucking moron, which apparently I could be, but et's just say I am right.)

I damn near broke down in tears tonight laying everything out for her. There is no question how I feel at this point. There is no question that we have been falling in love with each other. We were talking tonight because we had a problem, and instead of her working to at least try to fix it, she says she just doesn't know why she can't. This is mindfuckingly the problem n she is in tears saying this.) She tells me that she knows she is just not 100% in this with me, but can't seem to figure out why. I would think that since she is crying, she does in fact care about us and obviously this situation saddens her. And in my mind if I cared like that (which I do) I would think "ok, I care so how am I going to make this better?" And I would at least try for a solution. So the million dollar question here, is why would a woman who really cares about someone have the mentality of "let's work on this." Instead of "Idk why I'm not doing this and what the reason is for me that prevents me from working on this." It clearly saddens her to have that approach, so what is the problem then?

Will women sabotage love even after the other person has taken the risk of putting themselves out there 1st? Is this just part of the cat and mouse "game" played in relationships too?

Convo ended after I spilled my guts and then she said she wasn't in 100% with me. And I just said enough said and that was it. Heart. Shattered.

We are perfect together. She knows this. And I am not crazy I swear. So, why would someone do this?

I was on vacation visiting an old army buddy for a week. I had quit my job and decided to see him while I had the chance. Vacation went well and to end it we decided to eat out before my plane left. There was a wait so we wandered about and I was left with the buzzer for when our table was ready. When we were called it was just me and my buddy's daughter that got seated. This left me pretty much alone to converse with our very lovely waitress. There were smiles and chit chat as she took our drinks, nothing overly flirty I don't think. The rest of my friends family caught up and was seated finally. As we ordered, and subsequent times she came back to check on us, my buddy kept looking at me odd. When we finished and the checks came (we split them up) he wrote something involving me liking her and put my phone # down. I never saw it but that was what I could get out of him. She came back and said we were "funny", with a playful smile though. I admitted she was very attractive and we proceeded to leave. My flight was leaving in less than 2 hours and it was 30 min to the airport. On the way back to the car my friends entire family was trying to get me to go back and ask her out. He even told me I could stay with him another 2 weeks. While I appreciate it he lives 2.5 hours away from where she works and he only has 1 car that he said I could use. He's a bit impulsive. I wouldn't feel right taking the only car from a family of 5. I also don't have a job so renting would slowly make me broke. I reasoned that even if I did stay it would be too stressful a relationship being 100+ miles away and me not having a job. And if I did get one in the mean time, then getting schedules to match. And that's if she even said yes. My friend and his family said we were "in love" from the way we looked at each other. Did I make a mistake? Should I go back if she calls? Right now that's 2k miles away. The only thing I know for sure is she has the most beautiful smile.