By coming to love yourself you become whole. Self love begins with self acceptance, if you do not embrace who you are, you can never love yourself; therefore you can never love anyone else.
From the age of 14 to this point (25) I personally have been either in or out of a relationship and never took the time to really be on my own. However recently being out of a relationship I am making a point to being on my own and single. The reason for this is the simple fact the person I was with wasn’t mindful, too many red flags (still saw an ex, told me about how he went 2 /3 weeks without seeing his spouse, has way too many female friends for my liking and at the end was rude towards me). Seeing him for his true colours and especially last night when I wrote a opinion on a Facebook page and he wrote direct comments towards me which I simply ignored. People just need to learn to grow up and how to respect each other and themselves (you internally are hurting yourself when you are rude to others. It’s a negative energy you have from within yourself and you are spreading that hate when you should really only send out positive energy).
When you aren’t single you are with someone and sometimes you forget your voice, what you like, what you want and you tend to kneel in a way to the person you are with. However the fact is this you need to be on your own and welcome it.
Ways you welcome the single life is being mindful. Realize that the past is in the past, you can’t see what the future holds and that you are within the present. To make plans ahead is fine, however when you are with someone don’t expect anything from them right away since you are just friends. Another way to enjoy being single is making a bucket list or looking at your bucket list and doing whatever it says (example: I want to learn how to cook more so I will do just that or I want to travel to Greece and visit my family which I will do). By doing things off your bucket list you will face any fears you have, you will face yourself and feel like a champion by doing those items on your list.
It’s a journey that will be hard but one you will feel better about. A relationship isn’t 50/50 but it’s 100/100. You need to be 100% with yourself to be with someone that is 100%. Another thing is make sure you ask yourself “what relationship do I want?” there are two kinds of relationships 1.Coca Cola and 2. Water.
The 'Water' relationship and the 'Coca-Cola' relationship. Water relationships help us live and thrive in our higher nature, moving us towards our greatest potential. 'Coca-Cola' relationships are where others demand we focus all our undivided attention solely on them...cutting our love off from the rest of the universe. 'Water' relationships remind us of universal love and sharing...that love energy permeates everything in existence.
For me personally I realize what I want and what kind of relationship I am worthy of because I am worthy. The relationship I am worthy to be in is a water relationship, however I am going to love myself and continue my journey of being happy from within until a water relationship for me magically appears. Too many people think being alone is sad and scary and yet I (someone that has only been in and out of them) is excited for this new chapter and embracing it because of the simple fact that in time things will happen and when they do I will love and embrace it with 100% of my being.
This is my take on relationships (and my personal one). Tell me what you all think and god bless. xo